Hey everyone,
I lost my mum 3 weeks and 2 days ago, hard is an understatement, I don’t know whether I’m coming or going.
Mum was ill with cancer for 2 and 1/2 years so we all helped look after her especially my dad.
We were with mum over her final days in hospital, even though I knew how ill she was I convinced myself she would be back home again soon, the image of mum a few days before she passed haunts me - from just looking at her eyes I knew she was then dying.
She passed peacefully and looked so beautiful. I know she’s not in pain now but my god the pain is unbearable,
We have had mums funeral and now it seems even harder to get thru each day,
Waking up and having a few seconds where
Iv forgotten before reality hits again and the longing to see her, hear her, smell her kicks in again - the black cloud follows me everywhere 
@Mel1975 - so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum, I lost my mum 12 weeks ago - it’s so, so difficult - be kind to yourself and take things steady - take time to rest when you can. This online community will help you as it has and still is helping me
I lost my mum 2009 ,still miss her everyday i talk her every night.it will get better just takes time.i am greifing myself i lost my wife last September. And i know ibwill get better.
Thank you, one step at a time hey, xxx
Bless you,
I’m sorry for
Your loss, watching my dad go thru this after 50+ years of marriage I can see how hard it is x
Even after this time 15 years i still miss my mum .talk to her and say to look after my wife. Xx
I lost my mom 3 weeks ago. February 12. I’m a wreck. I am supposed to pick up her ashes tomorrow. I just don’t think I can handle it.
I also feel so lost. I cant focus. Im always on the verge of tears and I feel awful anytime I am doing something normal. Because nothing is normal. Nothing is the same and I am miserable.
Iv started doing a little list of jobs nothing massive that I try and do each day, I talk to mum all the time like she’s still here.
I’m always looking for signs from her. There have definitely been a few.
It’s awful and traumatic and definitely breaks ur heart but I’m sure ur mum like mine would want us to slowly put ourselves back together, I don’t think we will ever be the same. It’s four weeks tomorrow since mum left.
Be kind to yourself, take it one hour at a time,
I hope u have some support to help u through xxx
My husband has been incredible support. This Wednesday will be 4 weeks for me. Waking up is so hard. I hate that i wake up and for a second or two the world is ok but then I remember. And it feels so shocking.
It’s a heavy pain to carry - I’m glad you have support,
xxx
I pray you also have support.
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I’m sorry for your loss. Your emotions will be all over the place. I hope you can find some peace. It’s nearly a year for me since my mum passed. I remember it was worse after the funeral. I was on autopilot before that sort of numb and in shock. My brain definitely wasn’t working well. As the months have gone by I’m getting into a new way of living, mum lived with me for approximately sixty years. I miss her so much.
I wish you well and things will change over time. I didn’t think I’d make it but I’m still here. Take care of yourself as I didn’t for months and made myself ill.
Thank you, it’s definitely worse since mums funeral, I’m suffering with flashbacks from her last few days in hospital, I’m exhausted and constantly have a headache.
I’m sorry to hear of your mums passing, this must be really hard having lived with her aswell.
Your words have gave me some hope 
I’m so sorry for your loss. I completely understand. I am 4 months along after the loss of my mum and it barely seems real. Be patient with yourself. Listen to what your body needs. Sending love
I totally understand that moment in the morning when you just wake up and for that split second it feels like the life you have always known then reality hits.
I have just started to journal about my grief daily and found that to be helpful as it sometimes stops my thoughts from circulating around and around.
Hi. Yes, you will go through many emotions and none of us wanted this loss but here it is. Some days are definitely worse than others but there will be brighter days and coping will be easier. I do wish you well and I hope you have good support around and people to speak to.