Wasnt supposed to be like this

Hello, I’m just come across this forum and have found a lot of the posts v helful.
Im 52 with two children, 11 and 13, and my husband went into hospital for a big but not uncommon heart op…and didnt make it and died two weeks ago in hospital. It wasn’t supposed to be like this.
My children are being amazingly brave and getting me through each day. Some days i am cried out and a bit of a robot and other days a wave of sadness washes over me and I’m in tears. I’m heart broken my children will be without their dad and the future seems very overwhelming at the mo.


So sorry that you have found yourself in this club. You are at the very beginning of this journey and it’s all consuming. I’m 9 weeks in and thankfully my children are all grown and the thought of trying to cope with grief and young children, that’s a lot to deal with. I’m 57, my partner was just 49 and the loss is immeasurable and there’s nothing quite like this grief.
Take small steps and let the grief happen, there’s no wrong or right way and we are all here to offer support when you need it. There’s a lot of us!

I’m so sorry for your loss :broken_heart: It’s truly horrendous isn’t it :cry: It must be incredibly hard for the children to lose their father at such a young age too.
I’m 38 and lost my partner of 17 years on the 15th of March. He was a strong, fit man but his heart just stopped and now he’s gone. I cry multiple times every day, I’ve already had a cry this morning and I’ve no doubt there will be more as the day goes on. I have to make an appointment to register his death today so I know it’s going to be a hard day.

Some people on this forum are doing a lot better a few months later and others are still struggling two or three years later so the future is scary to be honest. I can’t believe I have to live the rest of my life without him :broken_heart:


‘Wasn’t supposed to be like this’ were the exact words my husband said to me shortly before his death. Sending over a virtual hug.

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So sorry for your loss. You can’t say ‘welcome to the club’, nobody wants to be here. The paper work is horrendous and heart-breaking, but you will get through it. Take care.

Wasn’t supposed to be like this is so true and my heart goes out to you. I lost my partner 9 weeks ago. He died suddenly at work. He was only 57. I’m 52. We had so many things we had planned and wanted to do all gone in an instant. The pain of losing your partner is something no one can understand unless they have experienced it for themselves. One thing I have learnt on this journey is to take one day at a time. Some days are better than others. I still wake every morning dreading having to go through another day on my own. I still cry daily. This forum has beed so helpful. Just reading others have the same feelings as me has been so comforting and does help. We are all on here for ourselves and to help each other xx


@Doughtyj I feel all your words. Ditto. 9 weeks yesterday for me. Everyday is different .

What everyone says…I endorse…this is definitely not what was supposed to happen…:heavy_heart_exclamation:

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