Is there a wrong way to grieve?
I lost my partner last month, and my body doesn’t seem to be keeping up with the emotions. I don’t feel broken yet, I’m just getting on with things. I found out while he had cancer he was texting his ex inappropriate things which has made me angry.
My coping mechanism seems to be wanting to sleep with someone else.
Is all of this mental and wrong? It’s hard to even know where to begin!
Good morning,
there is no “tried and true template” for the grieving process.
Everyone has to find his / her own way through this hard struggle.
Especially during the first weeks many contradicting emotions will be swirling around in your mind.
Do everything on a day-to-day basis and don’t rush things.
Please be careful not to create facts that couldn’t be reversed and which you might regret later.
In the long run things will improve, the very hard days will become less frequent.
But this takes a lot of time, grieving is a long and hard uphill struggle.
Please be kind to yourself and please try not to attach too much importance to those messages he sent to his ex.
Kind regards - Joe
Dear Ghostlaid, I am so sorry you are suffering. It seems to me your mind is in a mess at the moment which is understandable. Have you thought about talking about this with a therapist just talking it all though with someone might help
Wishing you all the best
Tom
this is so kind, thank you for being kind 
Yeah my mind must be a mess, but it just doesn’t feel it. Nothing feels bad. So I just know it’s gonna hit me later and I’m so scared. I’ve booked my first therapist meeting with a lady I had for like 8 years. I’m so glad I’m gonna see her again.
Thank you Joe <3
Again soooo kind. I’m grateful for your words.
This is the thing, because why would I regret doing something like that, because it’s not like I’m cheating?
Everything just feels a mess and I don’t know how to feel normal. But everyone says there’s no normalcy in grief 
Thank you
Ghostlaid,
I will just echo what people have said, their is no wrong way to grieve, as we are all different people, and have had different experiences. You just have to try and do what feels right for you. I’m glad you are seeing someone. Just remember it is your crap path, so don’t do anything you feel uncomfortable with. Look after yourself.
Take care.
Dear @Ghostliad ,
one aspect is that grief and despair do make a person vulnerable.
Especially given your emotional condition you have to be extra careful who you trust.
There are people with bad intentions preying on vulnerable persons.
And you might feel remorse afterwards.
So please be extra careful and stay safe!
Kind regards - Joe
Sorry for you loss of you wife this is a hard journey we are going through but we have to get through it for the sake of How’s husband/wife take care