38th anniversary today. took her a card and flowers up to the grave and had a major meltdown. she’s been gone 18 weeks. hate this horrible new life.
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That’s brilliant my wife passed away just over 10months ago put Christmas anniversary and birthday cards on her grave headstone fitted sometime during September you carry on like that that’s lovely and perfect
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Its all very new to you Bob. Its natural to have meltdowns. After losing my husband almost 2 years ago I thought those dark days would never pass and often wished Id gone and he had stayed but of course it doesnt happen like that does it? But I can honestly say that nowadays after forcing myself to be proactive a lot of the time, it seems to be paying off and most days I get by. I wouldnt say its a happy place but more a manageable one. I still have meltdowns, and Ive fallen to the floor a couple of times with a pain of grief, but I have learnt thats ok, as long as I get back up and carry on. We had so many more plans in life, only being 52 at the time and now that path is only mine, but the way Im beginning to see it is I would be doing a great disservice if I didnt try and live the life Ive been given and thats all you can do. Take each day as it comes. You managed 37 years of marriage, thats a lucky and wonderful thing, and those years you will treasure and smile back on but for now you just got to keep crying and getting back up. My best wishes to you today
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You are doing so well.
Today it is 11 weeks since my husband passed away. On mon 28th August would be 36 years since our wedding day. I have bought a card and will be thinking of him and spending the day with him on this special day. I take one day at a time thinking of him and missing him always.
I know life goes on and it is hard without him but i now
realise life is now different not what i wanted but have to accept this.
Please look after yourself and take care
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Hi it was my wedding anniversary too this week, would have been 47 years although we only
made it to 44. My johns ashes are in the garden under the bird table which we loved. I put a couple of roses there and had a chat - felt so sad for the remainder of the day but it’s my sons wedding anniversary as well so happiness and sadness mixed.
It’s so hard isn’t it ?
Georgina
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Yes
It is very hard and does not seem to get easier. I guess when you find your solemate best friend partner it is something you will never be able to get over when they are gone. I only wish the days left can be remembered in all our memories of the past and future ones when we are reunited with our loved ones.
Days go past slowly but months seem to pass quickly not sure why but they do.
Take care x
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thank you all for the wonderful support. Was quite upset at the cemetery yesterday but strangely this afternoon was worse. not sure what. triggered me but it was a really bad breakdown. then ok later on. grief is very strange. x
No two days the same now.
I was really upset today somehow felt quite alone and lonely today not sure why could just be a thursday day he passed away. Felt so sad hope tomirrow is a better day.
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