I thought maybe we could share tips on what we do which help each of us to cope with our loss.
My main thing is to keep busy. I have a lot of extra things which I HAVE to do plus there are things I WANT to do as soon as I have the time.
I am making quilts for me and my daughters from my husbands clothes and I intend to make a scrapbook of memories and photos.
I feel very lucky to have a faith which helps me. I honestly don’t know that I would be coping as well as I am some days without that. Don’t get me wrong, it’s still an uphill journey but I am at least functioning well and even have days without tears six months after losing me beloved Richard.
Journaling sounds like a great idea. I keep meaning to simply write down what I have been doing each day to look back on and see how I coped but I’m useless at spending that time.
Writing to your husband sounds a great idea.
I’ve also thought about journaling again. I did write every day for the first two years but I was so consumed with grief that nothing made sense except how I felt and my sadness. Now I might be able to put down things of interest. I am going to give it a try again and then I can compare those early months to now.
I’ve done some gardening in fits and starts and I’m meditating and drawing every day. I phone a friend most days and meet up at least once a week. I’m counting anything as a win at the moment including doing the washing up or just getting up and dressed before lunch!
My sister bought me a journal when he went into hospital, but I haven’t even opened it.
Anything I do around the house and garden is an achievement for me now. I just want to curl up and disappear most of the time.
I do text Ian several times a day as I find it comforting and it keeps him with me.