Hi, I am 8 months post loosing mum. When does the daily wanting or actual crying stop and non stop thoughts. I get headaches from the tension. I journal my thoughts which help but i still think alot it’s so hard to get on with life I just don’t have the energy at times . It’s not just loosing her it’s the legacy and nature of our relationship that I think about. I loved her but it was difficult and she was a complicated lady. Someone please reassure me that this is normal 8 months on and it will get better. It’s such a lonely, hard place. x
It’s definitely normal. My mum died nearly nine months ago and I still cry all the time when I’m on my own, which I am a lot of the time.
I do have good days and keeping busy helps but I’m coming up to a lot of ‘anniversaries’ on the road to the one year anniversary in November. I’m lucky in that our relationship was straight forward but it’s still difficult.
I wish I could say when it will improve. Take care.
Hi to you both, I lost my mum about 6 weeks ago and I’ve cried every day for her, knowing where you two are in your journey i know myself I’ll not stop crying and in my heart I know I don’t want to stop, no one can prepare you for the pain you feel when you lose a loved one, like you tigger 55 I feel the tension that comes and the headaches, I so wish I could see her again, its heartbreaking to know I wont I pray to dream about her or feel her presence but I’ve had nothing and that’s what upsets me too, (maybe she doesn’t want to ? Maybe she’s upset with me for something? ) every day these thoughts go round in my head, I take a day at a time, its comforting to know we are all going through the same experiences, its such an emotional rollercoaster, they were our mums and we miss them so so much hope you both are ok, take care
I never really dream about my mum either and I wish I could. But she is so much on my mind when l’m awake and I tell myself that might be why. Perhaps it’s the same with you.
You take care too.
Hi Caro, yes I was told it could be because I’m thinking of her so much it’s my mind trying to protect me from dreaming about her and I could be blocking memories out too, its strange really because usually when you think about someone in the day you can often have them in your dreams, l keep holding on to the hope I will see her, I was also told my mum will come to me when she’s ready, ( when I’m not so upset) & that she will be ok, I truly hope so take care
I lost my mum suddenly in January age 53 and I feel exactly the same. In fact before reading this I posted a question of my own.
I feel exactly like lynn, people tell me that my mum will always be with me and I’ll feel her presence ( like my siblings do)
But I don’t feel that. I feel that’s she’s gone. I miss her so much.
There are days that I won’t cry and it does seem to be getting less. But when I don’t cry I have this horrible feeling. Like why am I not upset today?
Is this normal too?
Sending all my love.