My beautiful blue eyed 18yr old boy took his own life last monday, when will it feel real?
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I’m so sorry for the loss of your beautiful boy .
I lost my son this way 4 months ago so understand how you are feeling .
The early days are just horrendous and you will still be In shock.
You have suffered the worst trauma anyone can suffer .
All I can say is take each day at a time and take any support given .
Keep talking on this forum and there is also a SOBS forum . SOBS also run support groups you can attend when you feel you can .
I will say it really does help taking to those that truly understand .
Please be gently with yourself .
Sending love
I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my son in March to a drugs overdose. Your brain will be like fog. Just be kind to yourself, minute by minute, no set rules for this journey. Keep messaging on here, this site is my lifeline. Big hug xx
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It will be a very long time, im on week 13 i still dont want it to be real, the first few weeks i was numb and didnt realky take much in, week 13 im still not sleeping, but earing a bit more, though still avoiding most of the world, keep chatting to others it does help
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I’m so sorry to hear what has happened to your boy and to you. I lost my daughter 18 months ago and that pain was utterly overwhelming and devastating. It’s shock and trauma and total heartbreak. It felt unbearable. From my experience it doesn’t stay as bad as that forever. At first all I could do was carry on minute by minute and hour by hour. There’s no quick fix but the pain does become more bearable over time. Honestly. Don’t expect too much of yourself too soon. Coming on here was one of the best things that I did. You will find support and understanding from people like you, we know cos it happened to us. It’s very early days for you and everything has changed so suddenly and it’s hard to make any sense of any sort out of it. For me it felt like everything had been thrown up in the air and no way to put the pieces back. Slowly, slowly over time things do calm and somehow it’s possible to carry on. I couldn’t cope on my own and so I took all the outside help I could get, and coming on here and seeing others further down the road who have survived gave me a little bit of hope. You are going through the very worst that any parent can face and just getting through each day is good enough. You are among friends here and we all look out for each other. The first weeks, months are beyond awful for everyone. But somehow we get by. It’s a roller coaster of emotions from grief to anger and guilt and despair. Things can improve tho, I wouldn’t have believed that in those early days but honestly you can feel better than this. I also got in touch with Compassionate Friends and every one of them has lost a child and they ‘get it’. I send you love and all kind wishes. Xxxxxxx
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my daughter last month though we still aren’t sure if it is suicide or substance misuse. We are preparing for the inquest now. It did feel really numb at first, then the grief did set in. It is really hard but take it day by day. That’s all we can do, keep going, eating, get as much rest as you can, try and take care of yourself. It is heartening to hear from others that it does get easier with time. Keep reaching out and talking. Take care xx
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I’m so sorry to hear about you son.
Our situation is very similar.
I am struggling with the loss of my stepson age 20 to suicide also 
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