It has been nearly 22 months since I lost Peter and to say I am not coping is an understatement. Today I am having a particularly bad day. Can’t stop crying and can find no motivation to do anything. I have more bad days than good. My Son and his Wife have been wonderful to me in many ways and continue to be so but when I get a bad day nothing seems to help. I do all the usual things hobbies, go out walking etc but nothing seems to help me. Don’t know what else I can do. I don’t suppose I am the only one feeling this way, what would others advise please?
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Hi @MoGreg1 I’m so sorry you are still feeling the way you do after losing your husband. I find it’s so hard though to adjust to this life that we have been catapulted into and didn’t want. I wish I could offer you some advice but I am struggling myself. It is fourteen months since my husband died and I still find it hard to believe that he has gone. I still don’t think that I have accepted it. I do hope things will improve for both of us but I do know I will never be the happy go lucky person I used to be and that does make me sad. Sorry I wasn’t much help.x
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It does help to know we are not alone but does not really lessen the awful feelings. I don’t think any of us will ever be happy again which is sad really as our hubbies wouldn’t want us to feel as we do. Sending hugs Moira xx
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@Loobyloo2 @MoGreg1 I’ve just had a bit of a panic. I really can’t cope with em. Had to have Propranolol to calm down. It’s almost two years and the anniversary of his death is looming. I think I’m trying not to think about if but failing miserably. Just had a cry. Hope tomorrow brings a better day. I seem to have developed underlying worries about dying and family members dying and wondering what the future holds. I need to try and live in the moment x
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Hi Nel. Isn’t it strange how we all think alike. My heart goes out to you. Sending love Moira xx
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I just lost my beloved husband a few weeks ago and know how you feel. I am crying the whole day and night. I am on my own and nothing does make any sense anymore. but I try my best to survive another day and night to make my husband proud of me. I am not ashamed of showing my feelings and if I want to cry I will cry. I try to keep myself busy but there are days I am struggling to get out of bed. The hardest thing is to accept that our beloved husbands and wives are gone as a person but still around us although we cannot see them. I feel my husband every minute and that gives me the strength to survive another day. I wish you all the best and strenght to carry on. You are not alone. Hugs from Anna
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It’s just the most horrendous pain isn’t it. My kids have been so strong and look after me but I just want my hubby back. I go from you can do this ! You are not the first & definitely won’t be the last to a total mess. I’m angry he left me as he always said he wouldn’t cope without me but here I am having to do it , but I know if he had had a choice he never would have gone . I have an elderly mum and I feel robbed through his passing that my mums will feel a blessing as she old with dementia and it’s sad to watch , which if I’m honest I’d have been broken but feel aoart from outliving your children there cannot be a greater pain of losing your soulmate?! Sorry for rambling, my head is scrambled & my heart is broken 
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PollyjaneW, I know how you are feeling. We had plans to go to Norfolk again by the end of April and were looking forward to a nice break. Now I am sitting on my own and crying the whole time. I am not angry with my beloved husband because I know that he did not want to leave me in the first place. We had so many plans and now I have to cope on my own. I am so sorry for your loss. Hugs from Anna
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I agree with all the comments. I too feel my beloved husbands spirit all around me and within me. He has been gone 8 mos and 13 days. I agonize and cry everyday every day. I agree that being happy again seems unattainable. My joy and happiness was him. Accepting all this is so very hard. I am beginning to think I will never get there. We were married wonderful amazing 52 yrs, together 57. He was the center of my universe. Without him I am existing, not living. My sweet precious husband, I miss him more than I have words for.
Peace and love, Karen
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I’m sorry for your loss. I too lost my husband a few weeks ago from cancer. I have previously lost my parents but although that was terrible it is not the same as losing your partner. I feel so alone and can’t imagine life without him. What’s the point anymore?
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I feel the same I will only exist now until
It’s my time to rejoin him
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So sorry for your loss , I totally agree when I lost my dad 6 years ago I was broken but this, this is a pain that’s indescribable . I’m not sure just how long I can continue with this agonising pain . Just want him to come & het me x
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Thats it isnt they didn’t want to go. I always hoped that death would just come naturally with old age but when its thrust upon us without any warning it is just terrible i know my husband didnt want to go cos he told me and i told him i didnt want him to go either 
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PollyjaneW this is exactly how I feel. The days are endless waiting yet I know it is not to be just yet. But one day we will be together again I am sure. Hold on in there sending much love Moira xx
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Hi guys. Really struggling today. Yesterday I didn’t cry once although the aching feeling inside is there constantly. Today I feel in the depths of despair. I really don’t want this life and yet we are trapped in it. How can life be so cruel? Sorry, no positivity from me today. I know people will say we will have good days and bad days but I hate Wednesdays as it was 5 weeks today that my partner passed away and the funeral is next Wednesday .
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Dear Tiffany, I know how you feel. I went out to the library etc The sun is shining and I thought it would be a day without tears. I was wrong. Thinking of you and sending a big hug your way from Anna.
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I know 
just just keep your strength for the funeral - big day xx
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Exactly it’s not a nice thing and unless you have been through it you have no idea.
We try do hard and everybody is different. They say its price we pay in grief for how close you were.
I was married for nearly 54 years so he was by my side since I was 15 a lifetime.
Thankfully we did have nice life and got to retirement which is was so looking forward to
Unfortunetly it wasn’t long enough but we did have happy times
Now on my own it isn’t the same anymore. I have a lovely famy who are all there for me but still lonely especially in evenings Angela
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No one can prepare you for a close loss ,I lost my wife in july and it is the hardest thing to have to deal with ,Talking helps with people who are going through the Grief
steve xx
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Hi @Ang1949 my husband took ill before retirement so we didn’t get to do any of the things that we would have liked to have done. It’s just so unfair. He was so brave throughout, faced everything head on. Put his faith in doctors and still didn’t make it. He died just short of our fiftieth wedding anniversary and I feel so cheated. I feel so pent up inside all of the time it’s so hard to let go of those feelings. I hate this life I’ve been left with and as I’ve said before I find the loneliness unbearable. I do hope I will at some point feel some relief but not sure when that will be.X
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