After 35 years together I lost my partner Mike in the early hours of Christmas Eve morning 2022. Can you imagine. Although he wasn’t a well man it was still unexpected at only 71. He was the love of my life. We did everything together. He was my best friend, companion, my support and I dont know how I’m going to be able to carry on. My grief is all consuming and I find I miss him more as the months go on. I have the support and love of family and close friends but they just don’t get it (and I don’t want them to any time soon). I’ve had bereavement counselling but in some respects it seemed to put me back rather than forward. Evenings are worse and weekends - I hate them. My family and friends have lives of their own and I dont want to be a burden to them. Life goes on but for me its stopped. It’s Mike I feel for the most. Not seeing his grandchildren grow and the happiness they gave him. Our holidays together. Our weekends, Costa Coffee, and the occasional McDonald’s breakfasts! Is it wrong to say I feel frightened without his support and love and care? I miss him sitting in his chair or pottering in the garage - just walking into it makes me breakdown… . There is a long way for me to go I feel.
@Lovealways I am so sorry to read that you have lost your husband. It must of been such a shock for you. I also lost my husband at Christmas 22 suddenly and unexpectedly. I went to work on the Saturday and Sunday I got a call from my son to say that dad had collapsed. Time I got home he was gone. Only just 53 years old. Just celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. His life has been robbed and our future plans and dreams have gone. I find it hard without him and miss him so much. I am going counseling which has helped but won’t bring back my soulmate. I try not to look into the future and taking one day at a time as I am scared of the future and being on my own. I feel like you with time which is going quickly but I feel stuck in time. Life is so unfair and cruel. Take care and big hugs xx
Hazel 1966. Thank you so much for your message. Im so sorry for your loss too. When its so unexpected for me the loss is greater. He was in hospital at the time of his death with no indication how it was going to be. Even they werent prepared. All the things we didnt say to one another. Every one has said Mike would want you to do this or that…but how do I know - we naively never discussed. Luckily I’m in full time work and they’ve been so supportive so Im lucky. I need the company frankly. Take the bereavement counselling it will help. Thank you for getting in touch. I dont feel as though I’m the only bereaved person dealing with all of these feelings. Take care
@Lovealways you are welcome…I know what you mean as I didn’t get the chance to say the things I wish I could of said to my husband. We were not prepared for this and we don’t know what our husbands would of said to us. I know when he collapsed he told our son not to worry me as guess he didn’t know that he was going to die. So very sad. I am glad that you are getting support from work. miss him so very much 
sending lots of love Xx
@Lovealways sorry for your loss. Everything you say sums up how I feel. Family not getting it, missing out on grandkids, holidays, coffee dares, scared of a future without them. I feel it also. I’m only 13 weeks on this journey but it’s so hard. Sending hugs
I lost my wife on April this year, after 51 wonderful years together, I keep thinking “was there more I could have done for her” breaks my heart every day.
We all feel the pain.
Hi
I lost my husband last June suddenly from a man heart attack.No warning we where on holiday, he got breathless while walking. He thought it was his asaass playing up he was 66 one year from retirement. We had
been together 40 years
We lost our daughter 16 years ago suddenly from sudden unexpected death in E.
I got to be honest I sit and wonder what the hell we did wrong now there is just me and my son left.
Life can be very cruel