Hi, just a bit lost at the moment. Wife had cancer and now at end of life support. Feeling low
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I am so sorry to hear about your wife and that you are feeling low. Do you have any support from your family? Sending love and hugs.
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Thanks - friends and family very supportive. But still have the alone moments, feeling lost and numb. Wondering what happens in the future. Wife is only 57 years old and I am the same age, Hate cancer.
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My husband died suddenly on Valentine’s Day this year and few weeks before his 66th birthday. I gave him my card and presents and about three hours later is was dead. I thought he had a heart attack because he died so quickly, but the coroner’s verdict was advanced kidney cancer. He was never diagnosed with any form of cancer. It was such a shock. I am now on the waiting list for Mind Thurrock and I take prescribed tablets to help me through the days and nights. I am on my own now and I am missing his smile and holding hands with him. And I always feel alone even when I am with people. I have his urn in our bedroom now. Sending love and hugs.
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Hi, sorry for your loss, it hurts I know. Stay positive it’s good to talk.
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I can’t imagine what that’s like. I only know the affects of what happens once they have gone. I’m 58 (just) and appreciated this is way too young to be on end of life care and too young to to be the surviving partner.
There seems a lot of years left to be alone.
7 months now and finally accepting that he has gone and this life I live is mine and mine alone. I miss being a couple but it has got easier for me. I could be saying something very different next week as grief is very unpredictable.
Sorry, probably adding to your misery. Although nothing I say can take away what’s happening right now. It’s hard, the hardest thing you are both going to go through.
Just be together, say everything you want to say and ask anything you want to ask.
Best wishes.
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My husband was 56, died in june this year ,try not to overwhelm yourself thinking of tomorrow ,next week or next month ,its incredibly hard and you wont be thinking rationally at the moment as your mind will be all over thinking of your lives together ,the illness, everything will feel unreal as your swept along with the ensuing care and medical side of things as well, my husband had cancer too and you will feel robbed and angry and desolate ,take 1 day at a time ,take comfort and support from others ,there are no rights or wrongs to how you feel or react , this site has helped me enormously and i will be forever grateful i found it and joined its early day for me and we are all here for you , we know we really do know what your going through .Take care .
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Sorry to hear this. My husband is 43 and we find out tomorrow if my husband is now just palliative with no more treatment (which is very likely). You are right cancer is just awful!
On a practical level, it sounds like you have family support which is good. Like others have said; try not to think too far ahead. It’s only natural for us to do this. I do it a lot as I have 2 young kids, but I have to keep bringing it back to now. Just try and get through each day best you can xx
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I feel for you. My brother is about to go through what you are going through. His wife has terminal ovarian cancer. She has been kept feeling well for the last months with chemo but that is no longer working. My husband died 6th June after a very short illness. I hope to be strong enough to support my brother when he goes through this hell. My thoughts are with you. Sandra
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Thanks everyone for the kind words. Currently sitting at bedside in hospital with my wife. She is on large doses of morphine at the moment, so no pain. I feel bad because I want suffering to end, but that means losing my wife. 12 months we have been going through chemo and radiotherapy and now end up here. Waiting for transfer to hospice which may not happen as situation is so bad. Turing to be positive but dam it’s hard.
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I know how you feel. My husband was on large doses of morphine and didn’t know I was there. Due to my own health and physical conditions I could not sit at his bedside. I know I shouldn’t but this makes me feel guilty as I couldn’t stay with him to the end. .
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Just thanks for listening- it helps
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Those feelings of wanting things to end are so normal in situations like this so please don’t feel bad. It’s a massive emotional rollercoaster that’s for sure. Xx
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I used to look at my husband when he was sleeping and just wish he wouldn’t wake up! For him obviously not for me. I didn’t think of what was to come only on making sure I did the best for him. J x
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Hi all, my lovely wife lost her battle yesterday to cancer. 12 months since diagnosis to end. We were all with her in the hospital bed yesterday when she took her final breath and was pain free. Still smiling at me when she passed. My god this is hard.
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Hi Pearson66 - so very sorry that your wife lost her battle yesterday, my heartfelt sympathies to you. Take care of yourself. xx 
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I am so sorry to hear that your wife passed away yesterday. My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. Sending love and hugs.
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I am so very sorry to hear the sad news of your wife’s passing. Take care of yourself.
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So very sorry to hear this sad news , my heartfelt sympathies to you and your family, we are all here for you anytime you need support.
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