Just over a month since I lost my partner very suddenly after 33 years of marriage. I keep reading that grief goes on forever, that you never get over it. Im so exhausted. I just want these awful feelings to go away and I find the idea that they never will so terrifying. What’s the point if I am just going to feel devastated and lost and tearful forever? This sounds so selfish, but right now I’d rather forget and smile than remember and be sad. How do people go on?
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Hi its 7 months for me i lost my husband suddenly too its very hard to accept im going to work looking after the home not much interest in anything else without him by my side x
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@Cadge well I lost mine suddenly and unexpectedly. This was 13 months ago and I still feel shock from what happened. I think I will always be incredibly sad even though I don’t cry every day . I just feel grief is part of me now and I’m not sure if I want it to go away actually xxx
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I agree i dont think i will ever get over losing him i dont want to i love him with all my heart i know hes watching over me that gives me comfort xx
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I dont think we ever get over it we have to learn to carry it with us wherever we go and live around it thats how i feel like im living around it xxx
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It’s been 11 months since i lost my wife after a short illness. She was just 53. I’m now the sole carer for my special needs 18- year- old son. The pain is excruciating at times, and definitely comes in waves. I don’t believe I’ll ever get over the loss, and don’t think many could. I think grief is something we learn to adapt to, but only in our own way, and in our own time. Our lives have changed forever, and that is bound to take a long time to adjust to.
Take care.
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Yes it does come in waves its very unpredictable my husband was 54 so young 
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Its so so hard bereavement but think what you can give your son…what rewards you can achieve from varing supporting and guiding him in the roght direction…yiur wife would/will be so proud off your achievement