Like so many bereaved and lonely people I often scour the Internet for help and support. I can’t remember where I found this but perhaps it might help some one else like it has helped me. Take care everyone xxx
""Sometimes I think one’s ability to cope with grief depends on their determination to get out of bed every morning, to stand ankle deep in the wreckage of a life smashed in a million little pieces, and say “I don’t know how, but I can put this back together.” And every day you continue to get up and labor, trying to glue teeny tiny fractured pieces of your past life back together until one day you realize you can’t. You can’t put it back together the way it was before.
So you spend a few hours, days, or months feeling heartbroken, bitter, angry, and sad. You rail against reality, feeling cheated out of what might have, could have, or should have been. But in all your despair, you still don’t give up. You keep hoping for it all to make sense until one day it dawns on you that even though you can’t put it back together the way it was before, you can take what’s left of your life with your loved one, you can take your memories and lessons learned and continued connection, and you can build something different.
So, again, you start building, and despite regular disappointments, discouragements, and moments of hopelessness, you keep trying.
When you have a bad day one day, you still get out of bed the next
When their photograph makes you cry, you keep looking until it doesn’t.
When your friend lets you down, you give them another chance.
When you break down in tears in public, you learn to stand still and let it pass.
When a support group or therapist isn’t helpful, you find a new one.
When your life seems meaningless and confusing, you hope that tomorrow, or the next day, will feel different.
You feel weak every single day because you are one small person rebuilding an entire world, but what you don’t stop to realize is that your daily acts of resilience in grief are brief demonstrations of immense strength. You stumble and get stuck, you feel lost and alone, but so long as you keep trying and keep pushing, you grow stronger every day.
Keep trying, because tomorrow is a new day. It may not feel like it, in fact tomorrow may feel like a worse day, but eventually you’ll reach a tomorrow where you look back and say, “I’m okay”. “”