- Thanks
very much I will get in contact xx
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Hi @Poppyp,
Would you believe I only just got back from the emergency dentist about an hour ago? I had to feed the dogs and give them a little walk - they thought Iād deserted them.
What you say about black lung is ringing a bell with me - I think there was a nationwide settlement scheme for all miners who had it. If thatās true, there must be some sort of fund somewhere - with miners the way they are and the industry being what it is. The problem is that it will be different in England and Scotland because of the different legal system. I vividly remember the strikes in 1984/5 when Arthus Scargill took on Maggie Thatcher and Maggie Thatcher wonā¦ It was a horrible time.
Iāll try to find out more tomorrow. Meanwhile, hereās a picture of my dogs playing on the beach. There are beaches all around here, and a lot of them stay empty for a lot of the year:
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Hi Christine I hope your mother is ok after the dentist that is a lovely photo of your dogās they are beautiful it looks a lovely day out the beach really does look quiet I had been in touch with the citizens advice but he said if my brother wasnāt a miner he couldnāt get his ashes put in with his grandfather i just received a letter I got told about this on hear so I tried them but they canāt help either I canāt afford to pay money to Weston union itās a lot of money to pull out when you havenāt got any savings I thought my brother would have been put in with him grandfather but I didnāt know anything about this kind of stuff at the time when my parents past away my uncle took all my dadās money at the time I couldnāt read so I signed everything over to him after him and his sister my aunty had several holidays to l las Vegas he past away 4 years later with cancer his children received the money that was left , I really donāt know what to do next this is the letter I received I really appreciate all the help and advice and been so nice to me I feel better since I started righting my story thanks againemphasized text
Dearest @Poppyp,
It sounds like youāre in a similar position to me - people are giving you the ārun aroundā, rather than helping you to resolve the problem. They are simply sending you to someone else.
Iām in a position like that with the hospital who treated - or failed to treat - my husband. Iām asking for answers, rather than money, but it boils down to the same thing.
Have you tried your MP? MPs have a constituency office thatās open during the week - Monday to Friday. You could ring or, if itās easier, send an email.
As for signing your fatherās money over to your uncle, who advised you to do that? Itās a very complex issue, and it might be impossible to resolve because it looks like the money has been spent, but if you felt, for whatever reason, that you couldnāt take your fatherās money, then someone - e.g. a court official - should have overseen the process. I have something called dyspraxia, which is similar to dyslexia. When I was a child, I couldnāt write at all, though I could read. I was lucky because a neighbour who was a teacher realised what was wrong with me, and gave me special classes. I am naturally ambidextrous, but my primary school made me write with me right hand, which my parents were not happy about, but at the time they could do nothing to change it.
All I can say is that I am willing you on via this website - I usually check in once a day, so please PM me if youād like my email address or anything else.
Your friend, Christie xxx
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hi Christie it sounds like you are not having it good at the moment Iām really sorry to hear about your husband I no what itās like about wanting to know I keep calling the coroner about my brother it could take weeks itās not nice not noing what happened with the receptionist at my doctors saying that my brother couldnāt have an appointment for a coupleāof weeks I keep thinking if had his medication he could be still hear we both tried to get him appointment but I think buy the time the appointment came I just donāt know what happened I never seen any insulin in his bungalow I keep thinking could of I done more or should of I seen something different but itās to late he gone they give him a flu shot he said he had a bad head his two friends had been helping him in his bungalow they keep saying you couldnāt of new we didnāt itās really bad everytime I think about it, I really think you are a special women everything your going through and you had done a lot to help me you really are special I hope you get the answers about your husband I canāt imagine what youāre going through and thanks very much for being hear for me i.will speak soon my friend xxxxx
Hi @Poppyp,
I am going through the same thing with Jim as you did with your brother. Weāre both wondering if we could have done anything more than we did, which is, Iāve been told, natural when someone you love has died.
A lot of the problem is - I think - simply COVID. COVID rules have made everything so much more difficult for everyone. The coroner is āconsideringā whether to have an inquest over Jimās death. At least, I think so. The coronerās phone often goes straight to an answering machine, and at other times you talk to someone who doesnāt know whatās going on.
I saw a psychologist on Friday. It was very strange. I cried for most of the time, the psychologist just listened. He then said, how am I going to help you to find a way through this? He said heād often seen people in the same position as I am, grieving the death of a loved one, whilst at the same time trying to make sure that our loved one has a decent memorial. The first part of this is emotional, the second depends on practical things like money. The psychologist said it created a conflict within you that feels like a whirlwind.
That made sense to me. You and I are both struggling with this, despite our own problems. You have a really big heart, you care for others, that makes you special and precious. Iām really glad that you have come into my life. Take care of yourself, weāll speak soon.
Christie xxx
Well Iām still waiting on the Corrina to see wot happened to my brother she said they are so backup it could take months Iāve been trying to get help from anywhere to get my brotherās ashes put in with his grandfather every time I try to get help I end up at a brick wall I rang the bereavement services and told them I havenāt got any savings I canāt afford to pay Ā£250 that is just for his ashes to be with his grandfather then Ā£900 to pay for my grandfather plot but I just wanted help to put his ashes in because I no I couldnāt afford a headstone anyway at the moment they told me my brother was getting universal credits I he was owedĀ£630 I thought finally I can get my brother with his grandfather so I rang them up they said call this number with your bank details so I did then they said he died a day before he was due to get his payment 3 different advisors told me he was due this money so I got intoch with citizens advice they got involved they looked into it they sent letters because I got told he was due that money the sent me a letter the other day saying they are sorry I got miss informed if he had of still been hear a day he would be entitled to the money I couldnāt believe it I couldnāt stop crying I only wanted my brother to be in with his grandfather i tried his birthday was may 31 I thought I couldnāt have got some good news but I was wrong Iāve hit a dead end again I feel I have been let down and my brother definitely going let down I so upset I try to stay positive but anything that has happened itās really hard 
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