With regards to Robins, feathers etc, What if you have had multiple losses? Who is the Robin or who sent the feather? It is not a specific sign from an individual loved one because you would have to guess who it was from and I personally believe spirit doesn’t leave you guessing so for me Robins, Feathers, Pennies are a message from spirit to say you are on the right path at the moment you see them
My son died five months ago. I only know Jesys prepared me before the police came to tell me if his death. I think the shock would have been to much. I am a Christian and the Bible says we don’t be married in Heaven so having multiple husbands here, as the person asked, wont matter in Heaven. I am not sure about robins as a sign but the Bible says nothing of angel feathers. I only know Jesus and trusting in his finished work on the cross will matter to any of us in the end.
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I have had multiple losses. Both husbands, both parents, my sister and her husband, my best friend last year. The robins are almost tame, one was close to eating from our hands last year. We fed them through the winter, that was before Jeremy died. This year, since he died, I have neglected our garden. We usually used vinegar water to deter aphids on the roses, I did not bother this year and for the first time I had goldfinches eating the aphids.
It isn’t all unicorns and rainbows. I thoroughly weeded one rose bed, two hours later a family member visiting pointed out three dead birds there, a fledgling, an adult with flight feathers and one that was beyond recognition. They were not there earlier. I was busy looking after my daughter and entertaining. When my visitors left an hour later I went back with rubber gloves on to dispose of them but they had disappeared. I phoned my visiting family and asked if any of them had removed the dead birds, but they had not.
I am not saying this is supernatural, I assume that the cat or fox that killed them returned to collect them. But it was the middle of the day and we were in and out of the garden and house.
I am a Christian too, although I no longer attend church and I am not very knowledgeable about the bible. I do take comfort from your post about having two husbands, though. Because I loved them both equally and I worry about it. My first husband was a Roman Catholic, my second husband was a non-believer. Both were good men who loved me, my son and my disabled daughter and both accepted that my children would always come first.
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Ron, reading your words brings me relief. It’s 17weeks tomorrow night that my Husband died. He said, in the 4 weeks before he died, that he would look after me and I want to think that’s going to happen, but I want him to be peaceful where he is too, not in that in between bit. He was Royal Navy 37years.
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I have spent my life not really giving religion much thought but now both my parents have passed I have started to think about it more deeply. The idea that once you die there is eternal oblivion is deeply depressing.
I have just read a book that my Mum bought when she attended an Alpha Course. Parts of it got me interested in exploring further but other parts left me unconvinced. I dearly hope there is life after death and my parents are reunited and happy but I remain unsure. Maybe someone can recommend further publications I can read where I can explore further.
I totally get where you’re coming from !
I to believe there is life after death
I had a baby sparrow tapping at my window never experienced this before but I do believe it was my Mum and I get comfort from this
My Granddaughter was born soon after my Mum passed she does things my Mum did and it’s as if she has been here before
My Son and Daughter in law believe it’s my Mum come back so much my Mum is in her
You believe what gives you comfort
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@Chri , yes we have to just believe what’s in our hearts. If it helps us , no matter how weird it might seem to others . We need to find some sort of comfort .
I’m so glad you can see your mum in your granddaughter , take as much joy and love from this as you can . She will help you . xtake carex
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I totally understand. I have now been widowed twice. After my first husband died strange things did happen which couldn’t be explained. It took sometime for me to accept that these were not coincidences, but they were too personal and on one occasion other people were involved. Now when things happen I accept them. At a family meal recently two of the four people suddenly felt very cold, they had goosebumps. I didn’t feel anything although I was sat next to one of them, and the other person was further around the table. Then it stopped. It was a hot day and we were indoors well away from any windows.
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I lost my wife 3 months ago and out of desperation visited a medium, before going I asked my wife (I still talk to her) for proof and that’s exactly what I got, the message I received via the medium was very personal that only the two of us could have known, that was all I needed. I now strongly believe that our loved ones are still with us and will be waiting when we pass if you are interested read the book by Tony Stockwell called Spirited it could help you with you with your grief and try visiting a medium it really helped me.
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It helped me too. Far too much personal stuff only we shared. I believe he’s with me, seeing and hearing everything. It gave me some peace.
That’s incredibly reassuring, thank and I will look up the book.
Thank you. I really want to believe he is still around and that I will be reunited with all the deeply loved and missed family and friends.
If I knew I would see them again I think I could endure the rest of my life. I don’t and can’t wish for an early exit for myself because I have caring responsibilities, but life often feels just full of pain.
Thank you for a bit of hope. I will try to find that book.
Xx
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I have read all your comments with great interest. I’ve been widowed twice, the first time 28 years ago, I had to take over the responsibilities of our garden and was visited by a robin every day for a week as I weeded and cried. I’d never seen a robin there before when my husband used to weed that same patch when he was alive. I also visited a spiritualist just the once - he told me my husband knew I’d been listening that morning to Whitney Houston’s I will always love you. This brought shivers to me as that very morning, through the post (back in the days when you could join music clubs and have CDs delivered monthly) I’d had that particular CD delivered and had been listening to that track on repeat. All these years on and here I am again in the depths of despair, having lost this husband 10 weeks ago. I was invited around a caring friend’s sensory garden yesterday which she opens up for people to enjoy and a robin followed me all the way around - she pointed him out to me and said she hadn’t seen him there before (fyi she’s a vicar so wouldn’t lie). For me, it’s not enough of course, but I’ll take whatever I can get! Maybe this might help others a little?
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Oh, it’s not fair, I’m thinking of you.
Lovely post, thank you, that is comforting to know. My Ray had huge willpower and wasn’t prepared to leave me or his life at 58, so to think his energy would be strong enough to be knowing is a wonderful thought, as long as he’s not in limbo, if there is such a thing, I am happy to think he’s with me in any way. Thank you .
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I have said here more than once that I don’t go along with the robin thing. However, yesterday I was in the kitchen, it has windows on two sides. One overlooks the front garden which has a planted chimney pot, the other window overlooks fields and a hedge.
I talk out loud to my husband frequently, and I told him to send a robin to sit on the chimney pot, feeling a bit ridiculous because he didn’t believe in signs from lost loved ones. No robin landed there.
An hour or so later a robin flew up at the other window as if it was trying to get in or get my attention. This happened twice more, the robin settled on the fence for a few seconds before finally flying away.
I really don’t know if I am being fanciful but I know many people think robins are meaningful.
I so want to believe.
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No-one can tell us we’re right and no-one can tell us we’re wrong at the end of the day. I told the story of the Whitney Houston track to my second husband who poo poo’d it at the time - but now I’ve lost him too who knows what, if any, signs he’ll send. I’m open - if he’s (somehow) reading this over my shoulder (if only) … bring it on my love! 
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I had a sparrow tapping on the window my Son’s tutor ( Home school) said he had never seen anything like this before.
The sparrow came for a few days to the same window where I have my chair tapping I too have never experienced this before
Find peace in what you see with your own eyes x
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We had a small bird fly in through the patio doors a few weeks ago , it flew right over to the picture of my wife we have in a corner , turned round and flew out . In the 18 years we’ve lived in this house we have never had a bird fly in before .
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