I am sorry it does not get any easier,got a card and chocolates sent to me by my daughter. My son used to come home for dinner on Fridays Sundays and holidays,he loved life so much.
Sounds like he lived nearby? My son was in Kent and Sussex before he moved back to London in February 2022. I did like having him nearby.
He did he lived in Finchley
He traveled by himself,and he used the buses everywhere . He was so brave,and could tell you what buses go to where. The world is a sad place without him, he had so many friends and was loved so much . Buy yourself a lovely cake and have a lovely cup of tea and remember your beautiful son.
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My daughter send me a box of chocolates in a heart shape box . I put it up against the urn we have with his ashes . But I have his mobile here, it is a pay-as-you go one , I used to put £20 per month on it, just looked at it it only had £1 on it so to keep it going I put £10 on it. The hurt will never end,anyway how did your day go ?have you had any answers yet?
Thanks for asking. I saw my younger autistic son (there were 2) who bought me a bunch of flowers and a box of chocs. We went to a woody park for a walk and some very expensive ice cream.
I’m going back to Danny’s flat today for the final clear out.
I’m finding the time change difficult. My sleep had improved prior but now it’s all skewiff again. This is making me more emotional than ever. I hope it adjusts soon.
We just have to take things slowly
Had a nice day yesterday ,went to see my daughter.But so sad today,Chris would have come here today and stayed until Monday,miss him so much.He would have sat here and watched the carry on films which he loved. Anyway how is your Easter?
Its OK thanks. We went to visit my son in the cemetery on Wednesday. We took my other autistic son to show him where his brother is. It’s such an abstract concept for him. He lives about 20 minutes from the cemetery so I’ll be taking him there again soon. Unfortunately the cemetery is right beside the M25. Wednesday was very windy but even more so there. Keeping busy with lots of admin. Trying to donate an electric recliner chair but having trouble a charity to take it without dismantling it from the second floor of a block with no lift!
My son shared a house with Mencap , so I left his bed ,tv ,dvd player etc all there for them to use for another tenant. I have his ashes at home,but the pain never goes away.
No the pain never goes away. It was Danny’s birthday on Wednesday
Danny had his own 3 room flat. I tried to donate some things to another tenant but his mother changed her mind, so I gave them to charity and brought back stuff that I paid for. I’ve donated a lot of stuff. Danny was tall and had large feet. I’m trying to avoid anything going in a bin or landfill.
And I just want to keep Danny close in all forms.
I find doing anything relating to Danny a comfort.
I have two garden ornaments of hares in the garden ,which I can look out of the window at.One Standing up I have named after my son,one sitting down I have named after my daughter. Every morning I look at them and think of my brave son.
We have Danny’s photos on our walls in different rooms so I can always see him. I find it comforting.
I feel that the shock of his passing has lessened but the pain of loosing him will last forever.