I agree with you .My son died July 2023, this year I put his name on the Christmas cards as well as ours
1 Like
Hi,
The funeral and Wake went much better than I expected. There was a lot of love shown for Dan and me today.
Tonight I feel flat and sad. I havenât slept well all week and psyched myself up for today but now itâs over it feels as if the real work starts.
What do I do next? Iâm not ready to look at his clothes. The house is a mess but apart from doing the basics I have no interest in it. I donât want to be on my own so can visit friends and family but what am I supposed to do?
Dear Bassett. I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter 2 months at the age of 42 from cancer. She had a 14 year old daughter and 22 year old son. I truly understand your pain. I feel your empty arms as I want to hold her so much too. I try to do what she would have wanted for me. She wouldnât have wanted me to suffer so I try to switch my thoughts to happy times we had together. My sincere condolences and loving thoughts go out to you.
1 Like
Dear Nightingale,
Thank you for your very kind words.
A dear friend said to me today that we have to be kind to ourselves and let people in. If people want to help let them. If we are invited anywhere we must go.
He said now the funeral is over many will drop off phoning and checking in. This is where your real friends will show themselves.
I have to recalibrate my life. Having spentt 33 years putting Dan first I now need to pour my love and energy into something new and he said to start with myself.
As a mother I have always found it hard to put myself first even when recovering from surgery. I wasnât being a martyr, I just always put Dan first. If he was happy I was happy. I have to believe he is pain free, disability free and happy now.
1 Like
So you lost your only child he was only love of your life just know how it is feels to loss your child. And l lost my brother. This year and do miss him every day and night so you try to get up in morning and to take care of both your dogs. Special one is not feeling well as l said it will be. Bit hard to get your head round things so try to bit brave but will be so hard right now so I will be thinking about you so take care Lynda
1 Like