Thank you Paul I hope you are right about George’s final moments. Life has dealt us both a cruel blow and it is so unfair both on us and the future our lovely partners have lost. Sadly we are both now in a world where there is very little joy. However, you have your lovely son and I have my grown up children and somehow we will adjust to our new situations. I hope you too find joy again, you sound like a lovely man and a brilliant dad to your son. Take care - Debbie
Thanks Debbie , really appreciate your kind comments. I’m sure you’ll find joy again along this journey. Stay strong. Paul
Hello Paul I do feel for you and understand your pain. My husband died nearly 3 weeks ago after aggressive melanoma spread to bones and lung. He had good care in hospital and hospice but GP care could possibly have been better. He had radiotherapy and one round immunotherapy but didn’t get to 2nd round Had lymphoma 3 yrs ago and chemo prob made him susceptible. A couple of 28 yrs we got married 6 days before he passed. It’s his funeral on Wednesday. I just used the Shout SMS service which is useful if you don’t want to talk. We all grieve differently and at different speeds. Take a step at a time, be kind to yourself and accept help is all I can say. Being busy with funeral and admin, visiting people over Christmas perhaps it’s not hit me fully. If I want to cry I do but I don’t force it. I hope that helps a bit and wish you peace.
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@Elly589 I’m so sorry what has happened to your husband. Life is so unfair and cruel. My husband suddenly and unexpectedly died last Christmas after he collapsed. He was 53 years old. I did CPR until the paramedics arrived. He had died of a massive saddle pulmonary embolism and undiagnosed kidney cancer which was in both kidneys. The shock and the numbness I felt lasted most of 2023. Keep reaching out on here and take one day at a time.
I see that you sent a reply to Paul…I noticed the date that Paul wrote on this link was 2018/2019 …so might not be on this forum anymore.
Take care and big hugs xx
Hi im 45 i lost my husband 46 after 4 weeks of finding out on june 6th he had pancreatic cancer 27days after losing my mam to lung cancer i lost my husband we had been together 29yrs, i dont think it has hit me yet he has truly gone, i miss him so much he was my life, it will take a long time for the shock to go and to start grieving ano im not going to see him again until its my time, just life dont seem fair sometimes does it.
My wife was diagnosed with lung and brain cancer in June. Doctors had earlier treated her for a lung infection. She was diagnosed in April and I watch her deteriorate over 2 months. Her lungs ruptured during the night and I tried to resuscitate her but it was to late Just over 6 months on I still cry every single day I often feel guilty for not being able to save her. I also had to leave the house we both loved due to the traumatic experience. She was my sole mate and best friend for 26 years.
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Hi Paul, so sorry to hear about your wife. Cancer is so cruel. I can related with the suddenness of it all. My mum was diagnosed with bile duct cancer on 14th April 2023, she passed 2 weeks later, we hadn’t even had the palliative care team out, she just rapidly deteriorated. Sometimes I don’t know if it’s worse or not, like she didn’t have to go through months of pain and hell but at the same time I hadn’t even processed that she had cancer and next minute she was gone, she just rapidly got worse over a 4 day period and that was is, died at home with my dad and my siblings around her. I think personally I have struggled to process her death properly, and feel I am probably not grieving properly but I honestly think I’m still in shock, even 8 months on, still in shock. I dunno, I’m rambling now. Just wanted to comment so you know you’re not alone and the sudden event thing is really difficult. Thoughts are with you. Take care
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