1 month since losing my son

Losing a child
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Hi all. I’m trying to navigate myself, and my family (2 younger brothers) after the loss of our beloved 18 year old son. I have started taking Mitrazapine after sleeping tablets stopped working. They are definitely helping sleep, but not sure about other effects. Has anyone else tried them and can share any advice? Thanks

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Hello @JoS26,

I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your son that brings you here.

You say you are feeling overwhelmed with grief, trying to support your family after a devastating loss. I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.

  • Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.

  • The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi, so sorry for your loss. I too lost my 35 yr old son (my only child) 5 weeks ago and my husband of 38 years (his Dad) 6 months ago. The pain, grief and loneliness is at times unbearable, my Doctor prescribed 2 dif antidepressants to be taken at the same time but as yet I havent bothered taking them, mainly because I,m worried about side effects and people have said sometimes they can make you feel worse before you feel better and as I am now completely on my own and having to deal with clearing out my Son,s Council home etc etc I def dont want to feel worse with so much to do. My husband was prescribed Mitrazipine to help depression relating to his health issues and also the death of his mother. He said they worked wonders for him though they can take a cple of weeks or longer to feel the benefits from them, he said they didnt noticibly make him feel happier, nor did they take away grief, he just didnt feel as low or in such a dark hole. I hope you feel some benefits from them soon, its also worth noting that different antidepressants work best for different people, its not one size fits all so if you dont think they,re helping you in any way it might be worth going back to your Doctor and asking to try a different sort. Good luck x

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Thanks for your reply. Each day is a little easier on these tablets, but I’m glad they don’t take away the grief, as I don’t want to feel any less sad about losing him. I’m so sorry you have lost both your only son and your husband. I can’t imagine how tough that would be as I’m lucky to have my husband and two younger sons. To loose my eldest baby is horrendous, but having the other two to focus on gives me purpose in this dark time. I hope you have family and friends that can pull you out of the abyss and give you some light in the darkness. Sending love xx

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Hi, I’m very sorry for your loss. My GP has prescribed them, but I couldn’t function the next day. Definitely progress with sleep, but dizziness and headache the next day were awful, so I stopped them immediately. But that’s me.

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