January 1st is such an easy date to remember for everyone. For me it was the first day of this nightmare. 12 months ago Debbie went to hospital with swollen legs. The first doctor said kidney issue treatable with tablets.He was very wrong. After a couple of days of tests Debbie developed a perforated ulcer on the abdomen which was life or death needing an emergency operation so the Kidney issue went on the back burner. She came through the operation but cancer was found. Incurable. I finished work to care for her and she seemed to be coping well until a setback in July from which her confidence was shattered. December she was planning for Christmas. I found her dead in bed December 6th. I know she didn’t die in pain for which I am greatful but I am finding these January days incredibly hard as I am remembering the same dates last year and the early hope and confidence being shattered
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DM58 So sorry for your loss. Your circumstances are just tragic. The memory loops will take time to abate but sadly become part of who we are. I could never forget what my wife went through with her own cancer suffering, Keep engaging with the community its a comfort blanket and gathering place for ‘half pairs of scissors’