10 years on

10 year anniversary of losing my brother to a brain hemorrhage. The years have gone so fast and so many things have changed. My niece is growing into a beautiful girl. We sometimes talk about her daddy as she was only months old when he died. Today is harder than the past years because it seems like a special anniversary which sounds silly in my head. The tears are falling so fast today and are hard to stop. I don’t think I have felt this low in a long time. I miss my brother so much and it’s so lonely feeling so sad.


Hi @Sallyann

It doesn’t sound silly to me. We ive by numbers, dates, anniversaries so a 10th anniversary of your brother’s passing is a significant one. I think grief is always there - it’s the price we pay for loving and losing someone close and I understand your loneliness - not everyone understands our very personal grief unless they have experienced it themselves. This poem isn’t about death but is intended by the author as a Blessing. I hope you can take some comfort from it. Best wishes.
Blessing by John O’Donohue
On the day when
the weight deadens
on your shoulders
and you stumble,
may the clay dance
to balance you.

And when your eyes
freeze behind
the grey window
and the ghost of loss
gets into you,
may a flock of colours,
indigo, red, green
and azure blue,
come to awaken in you
a meadow of delight.

When the canvas frays
in the currach of thought
and a stain of ocean
blackens beneath you,
may there come across the waters
a path of yellow moonlight
to bring you safely home.

May the nourishment of the earth be yours,
may the clarity of light be yours,
may the fluency of the ocean be yours,
may the protection of the ancestors be yours.

And so may a slow
wind work these words
of love around you,
an invisible cloak
to mind your life.