Hey not posted for a while …. It’s now 14 months since my dad has passed and I feel just so sad about it still I get up go to work and some may think I’m ok but I’m not deep inside my heart aches I miss my dad so much hes presence Hes laughter Hes voice and just having a dad around I could walk into my dad and he would know by my face if I was sad or upset I could guarantee on him to make me smile again and give me a hug ….. I started bereavement counselling last week so I’m hoping it will help me I think I’m not living life I’m just getting by each day the best I can but also I know grief is the price we pay for love so I know I will always miss my dad 
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Hi @Lou1985
Grief/heartache is the price we pay for love, So true. I lost my mom to brain tumours 5 years this April, she was my safety net, the world feels so different now 
. I think when someone we love passes, at first we go into a sort of autopilot, when that eventually passes, that’s when the grief hits hardest, but our grief journey is a process, take care of yourself, & do what works for you. I have heard a lot of people say things that have been helpful for them, like making a scrapbook or memory box of their loved one, having a photo of them that they talk to, keeping a bereavement journal, walks with the dog, I write letters, it helps me process what I’m feeling. I think it’s normal to at some point feel we’re just going through the motions, & life is happening around us but we’re not part of that . I know the feeling of putting on the “I’m ok” face, but inside not ok, it’s good you have a councillor for support, I think how we feel in grief often needs a healthy outlet. Sending hugs of support
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Hi, 15 months since I lost my mum and I feel the exact same way. I’mjust surviving at this point. You’re not alone in how you feel and I don’t think we ever truly recover from such a loss. If you have anyone to talk to who you trust with your feelings, please open up to them. I’m always free to talk if you ever wanted to send a message x
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Hi I lost my mum 17months ago and still struggling
im finding it harder now! I think I was numb before! My life has changed forever 
she was my rock and my best friend, sending hugs to you
xx
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