@tykey Unfortunately I already have a very elderly, grumpy cat. She’s loving in her own particular cat way. It usually involves her daily quest for tuna. Maybe next time, just don’t tell the cat
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Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, one that I am dreading but will have to go through.
You lay it bare but give so much hope whilst taking life a step at a time. Thank you and keep going xx
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@Judy60 I’m sorry that this is a journey you find yourself on. If I can give someone a bit of hope that there is a life still to be had then that means a lot.
When you feel ready please share your story. There are so many people on this forum who just get it, are willing to support and provide hope.
A community we never expected to be part of, but one which has given me such strength.
Take care xx wishing you moments of peace x
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@Ilovehorses , that positive attitude will help you through.
I love new adventures, it’s bittersweet that I can now doing those things which Penny would find difficult. I wrote a new bucket list. It had ,
Touring the Outer Hebrides in a motor home, flying a spitfire (not a real one), going cruising in a narrowboat, joining a 4 part harmony choir. Two outstanding ones. Whale watching in Alaska (dogs cant come), Microlighting (bit too heavy). I need to think of some more. All suggestions welcome,!
Am I too old for abseiling?
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@tykey I tried archery recently, lets just say I’m not a natural, and I’m hoping to stay at friends in France this spring and ,if I do, to convince my friends next door neighbour to take me up in his glider
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What a thoughtful gift!!!
What’s in it, @SP60 ?
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How about this for a start? I always wanted to do it, but my two metal knees dont work too well these days. Just above Buttermere!
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Fabulous! Thanks for sharing such a positive post. Alan had some mobility issues (long term) and although they didn’t stop us we were limited in how we approached everything. I didn’t tend to do things without him as that felt unfair. Now I can so I am trying to look at the life that is in front of me and think of stuff that I would love to do as well as the things we talked about. He was in the navy and spent time at the station in Antarctica and he desperately wanted to show me so that is a really big one for the future. Short term I think I might join a choir (karaoke queen you know) and take some riding lessons. I always had ponies as a child and would love to have a horse again. And a dog. Thank you so much for sharing: it’s got my mind in a positive place (for once). Take care x
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Brilliant. I agree with all of those (although I think the orient express is probably a tad out of my price range!). You absolutely can cruise the Fjords. Alan and I had that booked for April (when potentially it could still be snowy in Norway) and I’m still going to go. I’m a bit unsure but also excited. X
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My son and his lovely girlfriend were always coming so I won’t be entirely on my own. I don’t want to get on their nerves though ( nobody wants mother tagging along everywhere!) so I’m planning my own itinerary, trips etc and if I’m really feeling brave I might try the ‘single travellers’ meet and greet; eek. I might have to have a little vino before I can face that though……x
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@Arvia , Ive found music! I joined a couple of ukulele bands, and (dis)organise a lovely chaotic jamming session. Made loads of pals to boot.
Just 3 weeks ago, I joined a 4 part harmony choir, as they were short of tenors. Im having a tremendous time with them
I have acquired the instrument collecting syndrome, with 3 ukes. 2 guitars, a dobro and a mandolin. I think I will soon need a bigger house.
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You’re right. Alan was ex navy and loved cruises ( we came back from one just 2 days before he died). Originally I was booked into ‘our’ cabin ( well similar style anyway) but I’ve altered that so it will feel different. Mine rather than ours. We had another cruise booked to the canaries in November. Our wedding was booked on that one. I’m still going (with my son) and we plan to give the ashes to the sea on would have been our wedding day. That will be very very hard but I’m absolutely sure that Alan would approve. We can listen to the music we had planned and have flowers in the cabin (suite actually for that one; very posh!). I think I will book some nice spa treatments as well. We’ll see. X
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OMG that’s fabulous! You are a superstar! Saw a ukulele band ( ‘ukebox’ ) recently. They were amazing. Good luck with everything you’re doing; see you on Britains Got Talent!x
It’s funny because I feel it would be easier if I was older. I feel robbed of the time we could have spent together and that he won’t see the children grow up or get jobs etc. I never want anyone else and I could have 40 years of loneliness ahead. I also realise it must be terrible when you spent your whole life with someone
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I have to say, even though my husband is 64, we’ve only been married 14 years. So, I feel the same. We retired early due to his illness and had so many plans. We never got to do the big things, like visiting far flung parts of the world that we’d always wanted to visitto celebrate our retirement because of the Pandemic. Now we can’t because of his prognosis. We plan to visit places in the UK instead.
Hi @tykey,
Three suggestions come to mind:
See a volcanic eruption
See a total eclipse of the sun
See the Southern Lights (a bit more adventurous than the Northern Lights)
Best wishes!
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Hi @Arvia
Just have to say I have seen Ukebox twice, love them - they are amazing. Saw them at a Warners hotel last year and saw they were back there in January, so booked again to see them.
I have told loads of people about them, but never heard of anyone else who has seen them.
Already looking for them again at Warners so we can go and see them again.
Alison xxx
I’m so sorry to read this. Do what you can, when you can. Support is always here for you.
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