15 weeksc

It’s been 15 weeks since my wife died.
And the past, 2 weeks have been unbearable
I thought I was lost at the start. But it has just got so bad I’ve been off work for 2 weeks now and I just can’t get the empty feeling out of my head nothing means any thing to me now
And people around me are starting to suffer because of the way I feel. I just can’t get my self to do anything thing I don’t even want to do anything at all. She is in my head from I wake till I sleep and I m not sleeping very much at all. There’s just no point in life. Only I don’t want to bring any more pain on my family. I wish I had a way to fix my head. I don’t know how long I can go on feeling like this.


Hi Fred.

I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. I’m hearing how painful this is all feeling and I want you to know that you’re not alone. There’s always someone out there to help you through this.

If you do feel these thoughts of not being able to go on are getting too much, you can reach out to one of the following organisations who are always just a call or text away anytime you would like someone to talk to:

    • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
    • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
    • If you have any concerns for your health or safety, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.

If you’re interested in counselling, we offer free sessions at Sue Ryder. You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve this support, keep reaching out.

Take care,


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Dear @Fred123
Your pain is something we all understand. Don’t expect too much of yourself, 15 weeks without your loved one seems like an eternity but it is far to soon to expect you to be feeling or acting ‘normally’
Each day, if you are breathing in & breathing out this can be the biggest commitment you make, then so be it.
Please know we understand & will help support you. I think this forum may have saved my sanity, if not my life. Keep posting, keep talking, we can all help each other I am sure.