16 yo daughter died

Losing a child
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I lost my girl suddenly 7 weeks ago. We only just had her funeral last week, 6 weeks to the day. It was packed. I miss her so much - mainly I miss her future that’s been snuffed out like a flame. Her GCSEs, her prom, her plans for the future. Just gone. She was 25% of us but now we’re thirds

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Hello @Emeljay,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your daughter that brings you here.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

You might want to also look into: The Compassionate Friends who support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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I’m soo sorry for your loss. Nothing prepares you for the enormity if losing a child. As parents we look after them and care for them their whole lives. I lost my daughter aged 27 a year ago. All I can say is try be kind to urself. It’s one of the most painful things u could go through. I spent months not being able to cope. Waking up lost every day crying every day. I got tired of being sad every day but there is nothing u can do. Everyone’s grief and reaction is different and it changes. There will be days when u are angry and hurt and times when u r thankful if the times u had. Sometimes all at once. Don’t pressurise urself into doing anything ur not ready for or people’s judgements. Sending u lots of love

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Thank you so much - it’s still such early days and I’m taking it a step at a time. The time up to the funeral was like being in a bubble with all the plans and arrangements and people checking in and sending cards and flowers as a distraction. Now we are on the other side of it and I feel untethered with just the wide open future ahead. Trying to take those shaky steps not knowing what it’s all going to look like, we’re trying to find our new normal. Today my husband and I have felt flat and sad as lots of silly little things are reminding us of her x

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Nothing that reminds u of her is silly. It’s memories and that’s all we have. When someone dies we have soo much to do. We have preparations to make and people r there to ask how we r. Sometimes it’s like we r on auto pilot. Then times will come when u gave no energy and it’s all too much. Sometimes I would have bad days and all I wanted was to run away and hide just didn’t have the motivation to do anything. Allow urself those days. Try to have people round u who u can open up to. Some people like to talk about their loved ones others might not. It’s a rollercoaster.

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