My son, Ollie was killed in a tragic railway accident 12th May. I’m coping on the outside but not coping at all. I don’t feel able to talk anymore. I work in hospitality. Went back full time end of June and have spent two months with a brave face.
I don’t know what to do or say anymore. I feel I can’t go on or go backwards and ask for help
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Hello @Mrsgh,
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your son Ollie that brings you here.
Sadly, you are not alone. Many of our members have experienced the death of their child and will understand some of what you’re going through. I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, I wanted to share some sources of support that might help you right now.
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. You can call them on 0345 123 2304
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
Hello @Mrsgh
The death of your lovely son is so terribly difficult to get your head around. It’s so recent and you really haven’t had any time to process what has happened. My heart, as someone who has lost their partner, is with you.
I replied because I’m back at work, and not coping today. I had 2 weeks compassionate leave in July, but work from home so it’s slightly easier, I can cry, shout, talk to him, kiss his photo, etc. The latter helps. But a bad day today.
Do you have other family around you? I don’t have many, but just one is keeping me from completing falling apart.
Please take help from all the groups mentioned, and seek out posts here on dealing with it all.
Sending heartfelt wishes and hugs.
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Thank you for for reply.
I feel I have support. I’m living with my
parents; and actually have been for a year since my youngest son left. I’m grieving my marriage; my loss of my home; all my children leaving; and actually my home and my loss of purpose. I feel I’m doing g alright til I really think. And then Ollie. Because he moved out two years ago I don’t know how bad I feel. I do t feel it’s real I won’t see him again. I saw him last Xmas. He’s grown up and living his legend. (Was) like the other boys. Like they all should. They’re grown up. But I
It’s them all. And I miss Ollie so much more that I can’t see him again. I say I’m coping but I’m not sure.
Omg I forgot to say how sorry I am too for your loss. It’s terrible how selfish this process and experience makes us. I’m sorry. So very sorry for your loss.
It won’t help but I am.