I am not sure what to expect with this post. I just feel the need to do something.
I am 38. 2 weeks ago my wife was unexpectedly taken from me, 1 week before xmas. We had 2 young children, 7 and 5, plus my wife had a daughter, my step daughter who is 21.
We were incredibly happy and looking forward to xmas before this nightmare started.
My wife was my soul mate in every sense. I worked full time, she looked after the house and I relied on her for so much. She was so loving and accepting. She did the majority of parenting.
My step daughter has suffered borderline personality disorder, my son has severe autism, and my daughter is very delayed in her speech. My wife was on top of all of this and did an amazing job.
She had only a few months ago received a British Empire medal for her amazing charity work.
I know this may seem a common phrase in this situation, but I really do not know how I can go on.
I am getting up each morning, exhausted by the children. They are dealing with it very well, but I fear how this affects them in the long run.
When they are asleep, i am alone with my thoughts and I wish for nothing more than to be with my wife, either her being alive or me being dead. I am not suicidal it must be stressed, I could never do that to my kids.
Whenever i was feeling low, stressed or anxious, my wife would help me through it. With her gone, I literally do not know what to do.
I fear I will become bitter and angry, and snappy with my children. I need to fix myself so I can be there for them, but everyday gets worst.
People say it gets better with time, but every day is another day since I last saw my wife, so I do not know how that can be so.
I try to escape from reality becoming someone else, but when I am back to me, the pain is still there.
What do I do?