2 years and no easier

[Jad]

My mum passed just over 2 years ago and the pain and upset still hasnt eased. Does this pain and sadness ever calm down? It seems to be getting worse if anything.

[54321]

I’m not as far into the journey as you but it doesn’t get easier. I feel it’s getting worse too.
I find this forum helps a lot. Hope you’re ok x

[TARALOU94]

Hi i’ve just joined the group today for this exact reason. My mum passed away age 56, 6 months ago. I lost my grandad age 97, 3 weeks later.

I feel exactly the same, everyday is more painful than the last and i have no idea how to move forward. I dont have any advice for you but wanted you to know you’re not alone.

[Jad]

Thanks, I appreciate the responses. Not sure how I’m supposed to be feeling at this time. Just thought it would’ve got easier somehow after 2 years. My dad seems to be further along on the grieving process as when I mention her he says “still”! Then in the next breath he’s upset too. Don’t see an end to feeling like this, but I’m assuming when it does get more manageable I’ll probably feel guilty about dealing with it better.

[54321]

My dad is the same. I think it’s their way to cope. He’ll tell me to carry on as that’s what mum would have wanted but then get upset himself.
I did something did something for an hour the other day and I didn’t think about mum. I felt ever so guilty so I get what you mean

[Ang2]

@Jad I’ve only just lost my mum 3 weeks ago and about to lose my dad too as he is currently in end of life care. I already feel like it has changed me forever. It has also changed how I see life…and not in a good way.
I don’t think the journey of grief ever ends. I think as humans, we tend to ‘adapt’ to changes over time but it doesn’t mean it hurts any less.
I personally have never dealt with loss/death very well even from a very young age. So, in my current situation, my emotions are all over the place.
I think sometimes it helps to help others. Maybe some sort of volunteer work?
Hugs to you xx

[Pandaprincess]

Hi,
Sending hugs of support. my mom passed away 2 years ago, I find emotions coming in waves, I have moments when I’m ok, then moments of sadness & crying. I see it as being like carrying a backpack full of rocks, when they first pass, it weighs you down & feels really heavy, but over time it’s like the rocks shrank, I’m still carrying the backpack, & there’s still a weight to it, it’s just not as heavy as it was, it’s more of a comfortable weight now that I’m willing to bear.

[Jad]

I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through, and offer my condolences. No, I’ve never dealt with these situations well either.Have been trying to keep myself busy looking after my dad. Just trying to do what my mum would’ve wanted. My thoughts are with you x