My mum passed just over 2 years ago and the pain and upset still hasnt eased. Does this pain and sadness ever calm down? It seems to be getting worse if anything.
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Iām not as far into the journey as you but it doesnāt get easier. I feel itās getting worse too.
I find this forum helps a lot. Hope youāre ok x
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Hi iāve just joined the group today for this exact reason. My mum passed away age 56, 6 months ago. I lost my grandad age 97, 3 weeks later.
I feel exactly the same, everyday is more painful than the last and i have no idea how to move forward. I dont have any advice for you but wanted you to know youāre not alone.
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Thanks, I appreciate the responses. Not sure how Iām supposed to be feeling at this time. Just thought it wouldāve got easier somehow after 2 years. My dad seems to be further along on the grieving process as when I mention her he says āstillā! Then in the next breath heās upset too. Donāt see an end to feeling like this, but Iām assuming when it does get more manageable Iāll probably feel guilty about dealing with it better.
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My dad is the same. I think itās their way to cope. Heāll tell me to carry on as thatās what mum would have wanted but then get upset himself.
I did something did something for an hour the other day and I didnāt think about mum. I felt ever so guilty so I get what you mean
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@Jad Iāve only just lost my mum 3 weeks ago and about to lose my dad too as he is currently in end of life care. I already feel like it has changed me forever. It has also changed how I see lifeā¦and not in a good way.
I donāt think the journey of grief ever ends. I think as humans, we tend to āadaptā to changes over time but it doesnāt mean it hurts any less.
I personally have never dealt with loss/death very well even from a very young age. So, in my current situation, my emotions are all over the place.
I think sometimes it helps to help others. Maybe some sort of volunteer work?
Hugs to you xx
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Hi,
Sending hugs of support. my mom passed away 2 years ago, I find emotions coming in waves, I have moments when Iām ok, then moments of sadness & crying. I see it as being like carrying a backpack full of rocks, when they first pass, it weighs you down & feels really heavy, but over time itās like the rocks shrank, Iām still carrying the backpack, & thereās still a weight to it, itās just not as heavy as it was, itās more of a comfortable weight now that Iām willing to bear.
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Iām so sorry to hear what you are going through, and offer my condolences. No, Iāve never dealt with these situations well either.Have been trying to keep myself busy looking after my dad. Just trying to do what my mum wouldāve wanted. My thoughts are with you x
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