Hello happy new year to all on here
2026 another year without my mum it’s unbearable. It’s going to be 10 years a whole decade without my mum by November 24th. To me it’s like it happened today never mind yesterday. I’ll never be able come to terms that she’s gone. I’ve learned my grief has no measure of time and that it’ll never leave me. It’s because my mum is in my heart that’s where it hurts me the most
I’m so sorry for your loss Steven, I lost my mum nearly 6 weeks ago and I had to walk into 2026 without her - its the worst pain I have ever felt in my entire life, so I understand where you’re coming from. From what I have read in this amazingly supportive community is that there is no time limit to what we feel. I am still new to my grief journey and so cannot offer any gems of hope but that in my experience, one day at a time and some days are better than others. I continue to sit in my grief when it takes hold, but I don’t dwell there and I think thats important. I have learnt that I need to adjust to a life without her and accept that she couldn’t stay with us, she was too broken. Just offering you my support and I hope you find some peace in even just small things. All the best K
Hello K
My names Will & have been posting on here for the last year.
Your words ring true.
I lost my Mum last Feb 2025 & can not believe that on the 11th Feb we would have been without her for 1 year.
I can’t quite get my head around it..
I’ve been so up & down with this grief process .
Recently I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed again as I process this last year.
I’m an emotional person and find that helps as I try not to repress feelings.
But it’s a lonely ride this grief process isn’t it , even when you have Lovely pals & family to talk too.
Sending love & thoughts to you.
All the best
Will
Hi will my names Steve I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my mum over 9 years ago. I know how it feels this loneliness of grief. I never realised how empty if makes anyone feel. Grief likes infact enjoys consuming you it won’t let go. I’ve spent the last 9 years ago trying to not let it control me I lost my nan year after my mum went. I saw how cruel Alzheimer’s is when it took my nan. I get angry when I hear about cure for it in my nans case the cure is coming to late if it’s ever found. Grief is something no one can take away I know it’s with me for life. I’m wishing that my life will come to an end so I can be with my mum soon hopefully sooner than I think
I understand where you’re coming from, I’m quite an emotional person myself. I try to control it but sometimes its not possible.
The journey can be lonely but this community helps me realise that we all walk a similar path, so in that, we’re not really alone.
Keep going one day at a time I think, some days will be easier than others. I’m ok today but had a difficult day on Wednesday.
All the best to you too Will
Hi,
I lost my Mum in 2015 to complications after pneumonia - so it’s been 10 years and the pain is still raw. I know how you feel. I find it’s like a wound which is always there - I’m learning to live with it but it is taking a long time. Grief is the price we pay for love and I was very close to my mother so this must be why it is taking so long. Only people who have been very close to a parent can understand the awful pain of the loss when they’ve gone. It is getting slightly easier as time goes on but there is a deep wound there. I have one brother but he hasn’t been keeping in contact since my Mum died so this is painful too. The only thing to do is take one day at a time and keep on going. Our mothers would want us to live our lives with happiness and not be bogged down in grief for ever. It’s a very painful process but time is a healer. Developing new interests can help. We just have to keep on going and there is counselling if it becomes overwhelming.
Take care.
Hello
Thank you for sharing your thoughts with loosing your mum.
Love & thoughts to you.
I lost my mum a year ago.Its just coming up to the first anniversary of her passing.
Like you I was very close to my mum.
This grief journey is so tough isn’t it.
I agree with everything that you said.
It’s helpful to read other people words.
Best wishes for now
Will
Hi Steven, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I haven’t lost my mum, that must be very tough and I can’t even imagine how you feel. I have lost my best friend in the last few months and that has been incredibly hard. You feel bad because you loved that person and you feel the void they have left.
Hi thanks for your kind words. I’m sorry to hear you lost your best friend. No it’s true no one knows how it feels to lose a mum if they haven’t been through it.
I’m going to speak from the heart I’ve seen what this grief is doing to me. It’s tearing me apart it’s an unimaginable pain that cuts right through every fibre of my being and when it does all I want to do is cry my eyes out playing a song as I think about my mum and how much I miss her and need her oh god do I need her it’s true what they say you miss them when they’ve gone. This is hard for me the day I lost her I was about to start work I work In a job ax as a traffic warden getting grief from the abusive public on a daily basis. I tell myself how can you do this job when I get abuse given I lost my mum on that day. I honestly don’t know how I’m doing it. Something inside me is keeping me going
I know this though I don’t want to be here no more. I want to be with my mum where I belong sooner it happens the better
Love & thoughts.
Up & down with grief so much if late.
It’s the anniversary of my mum passing a year ago thus Wed 11th Feb.
So I’m trying to be kind to myself and just how I feel this week.
So tough for us all.
But this site is so good just to write things down.
Much love
Will
I understand what you are going through Steve. I lost my Mum in October and my uncle shortly before that. Slowly all the people close to me have died. I lost my dad when I was very young. The people who are abusive are not very nice people. You get people like that in life. I find that I get more easily upset when someone is insensitive as I don’t have the emotional support of my Mum. I am much more vulnerable and feel alone. I cry and then releases my some of my sadness. Your Mum would only want you to be happy. I know my Mum used to say it. I hold onto the thought that I will not waste everything my Mum did for me and taught me. I would do anything to have my Mum back. I try to take each day as it comes.
NeHi sparrow2
Sorry for both your losses
I know how you feel. I’ve noticed in the 9 years since I lost how vulnerable I do feel the world seems more colder more lonelier without my mum in it where I feel I can’t go to see her and feel her arms around me. Seeing her gorgeous smile and knowing life is better with her in my life. My mum leaving me doesn’t feel real. I tell myself it’s not happening and that anytime soon I’ll get a text or a phone call saying hi son are you ok I could tell her about my day in work I miss that so much if I could just have few moments with her I’d give anything I’m getting upset written this I just keep holding on even though I don’t want to. I’m just living for the day I’m with my mum it needs to hurry up