This evening I lit this candle for my darling husband Paul.
I will always love and miss you 
xx
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This evening I lit this candle for other passed loved ones.
Please view it as lit for those beloved ones you miss and mourn.
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This evening I lit this candle for those struggling with challenges and difficulties in life.
Please view it as lit for you, your family, friends, acquaintances and colleagues.
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As always RoseGarden so thoughtful. Thank you, I hope you are as well as you can be.
Take care
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Thank you @RoseGarden
As ever you are so thoughtful, it’s much appreciated 
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Many thanks RoseGarden, so lovely as always x
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As always thinking of others in your grief xx please know it is really appreciated 
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@RoseGarden
I joined the Sue Ryder May 2024, after my Husband suddenly died April 2025 , I remember your posts and name from us being the “spring class of 2024”
I don’t see the names from “our class “ on here anymore , and I hardly post myself now , maybe we were all looking for answers ? And two years on we realise there aren’t any ?
I did meet a Lady on here who’s story mirrors mine , hubby same age , death sadly the same , and is from the hometown where I use to live , although I moved years ago , we do chat everyday .
And although I don’t see anyone on here now from “spring 2024” I do look out every Sunday for your candles , it’s kind of comforting someone with the same timeline
It doesn’t feel like two years ? Does it ? How did we get there ? X
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I love the candles you are lighting for everyone its such a deeply thoughtful gesture! Thank you
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Thankyou @RoseGarden for your kindness. I hope lighting the candles brings you some comfort too
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Hello @Jane15 ,
so many of our ‘contemporaries’ seem to have disappeared, I hope they are doing the best they can.
Time seems different now. Sometimes it seems like a long time since I saw Paul and then a memory comes to mind and it feels like just a few days ago that it happened.
Like you my husband died suddenly, about a month before your husband.
I still don’t understand why it happened. I know medically but I still question why such a lovely man went so soon.
Sending you a big hug and I am glad the candles help.
Feel free to keep in touch if you want. Absolutely no pressure.
Take care,
Rose x
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Sorry for not replying last night.
Yesterday’s gardening included moving pots, physically tiring and a bit emotional as well as Paul was the one who did that.
I hope the candles helped and brought some comfort.
Take care x
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I was working in the garden yesterday. Chopping the budlieia back . Something my husband always did . That got me as well
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It’s so emotional when you do something they did.
Shared jobs that we have to do now bring back memories.
I think these are some of the unknowns of bereavement that until you are experiencing it don’t even occur to anyone.
Big hug x
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Hi Rosegarden and Sherbet, for me it’s the other way around I used to do what my wife would tell in the garden and it’s the hug and the kiss for job well done that I’m missing.
Best wishes for the day
Tom
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Ah I hadn’t thought of it like that before till you mentioned it . My husband used to what I asked him to do in the gardening.
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Thank you @RoseGarden for this kindness . Sending best wishes to you
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