I’m 23 nearly 24, I lost my mum to cancer in April 2023. She had quite a traumatic death and I suffer knowing she would have been scared and in pain at the time of her passing. I feel the essence of her in everything I do and can’t shake the feeling of emptiness everyday. I’m an only child and my dad is not in the picture, my mum was everything to me and I was everything to her. We were inseparable and the best of friends. I never imagined a world without her and I still don’t but somehow I’m living in it. I have struggled with the idea of getting help or support since my mum has passed but it’s time.
Miss you mum x
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Hello @Emilywm,
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Thank you sharing this lovely photo with us 
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Sadly, you’re not alone and many of our members have lost their mums and will understand some of what you’re going through. As well as the community, we also have a text support service, online bereavement counselling and our Grief Kind Spaces. You can find out more at sueryder.org/support.
Take care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
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I’m so sorry you lost your mum so young. It’s devastating. I’m 53 and i lost my mum on the 6th Jan this year very suddenly and unexpectedly. Like you, I’m an only child and have no close family members so it’s been especially difficult.
I totally get what you’re saying about the feelings you’re going through. Ive been doing a lot of practical stuff the last couple of weeks and i honestly don’t know how i got through that, i kind of went into auto pilot and am living a kind of surreal half life at the moment. Friends have been very supportive but i know that the reality of it is that i am alone for most of it and that’s scary.
I just wanted to reach out to you and show you you’re not alone and there are bound to be people who have lost a parent st a young age and hopefully one of those will aldo reach out to you.
Anyway, take care of yourself and reach out when you need to
Hi there,
Ironically enough my mum was 53 when she passed.
I’m so sorry to hear of the passing of you mum, I’m 23 but I would of always needed my mum, maybe even more so when I was older I fear of the things I will miss out on most.
I know grief changes by ages but we are joined by the fact you will always want and need your mum. The double life you mentioned is all too real and the autopilot is something I feel I can only switch off when completely alone which Dan be overwhelming.
Thank you for sharing your story and I hope our mums are enjoying a well earnt cup of tea and a cake together.
Kind thoughts to you x
Emily
