My beautiful brother will not be sat around the Christmas table again this year this is the second Christmas without him. When the say grief comes in waves try tsunami there is not one day that goes by that I do not think about you but Christmas time is especially different I still by the kids in the family a selection box each I write love from uncle Chris in heaven. A year and half on and I still feel numb to all emotions I don’t get excited I don’t feel happy I feel like IAM just existing through life untill we can be together again with mum and dad. I miss you so much.
Hello @Suzanne.w,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Christmas and other occasions can feel extra difficult when someone you love has died. We have some advice about coping with grief at Christmas here: Coping with grief at Christmas | Sue Ryder
We have lots of support we can offer you at Grief support services | Sue Ryder, including online counselling, a text support service and more.
Please do use any of our services that you would find helpful. The community is here for you too.
Take care,
Alex
Hi
I was sad to read about your ongoing grief.
I lost my dear sister a little under 8 weeks ago.
Even though we all knew her fight with cancer was coming to an end, it was still a shock when it happened.
I feel your pain.
I know how you feel. My brother died two years ago in December. I remember not long after he died speaking to a lady at work who had lost her son, and I asked her naively if I would ever ‘get better/get used to it/over it’. And she said ‘no’. I knew that she must be right. On a happiness scale of 1-10, i try to stay at 5 as long as possible, which is sort of boring, but there’s fewer comedowns or prolonged lows to live with.