3 weeks since i lost my Dad

Losing a parent
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I lost my Dad 3 weeks ago. He had a heart attack at home 11 days beforehand, never regained consciousness and ended up with multiple organ failure. Me and my Mum had the difficult decision to make to turn the machines off… i watched him slip away, holding his hand. We had his funeral a week past Monday and since then, none of my family have even been bothered to check in on me. I don’t know how i should be feeling, should everything be back to normal or am i right to be grieving my Dad? I was close to him, very close and i miss him. Mum is the only one who i’m in contact with, we’re both struggling but jo one else seems to be bothered…

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Hello @TTgirl ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Hi so so so so soon and raw for you, nothing will be normal. be kind to yourself and just take it a day at a time, slow down and it is ok to feel however you feel.
take care Lynda

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I’m so sorry to hear about your loss. I lost my Dad a few months ago, he ended up in hospital to have fluid drained from his body and he never returned home :cry: his kidneys and heart couldn’t cope with the procedure and as a result they failed.
I like you was fortunate to be there with Dad at the very end, but it doesn’t make things any easier. Dad’s final week was awful and it is something that causes me a lot of pain when I think of it. All I can say is, things do start to become a little easier as time goes on but you will have ups and downs which is completely normal. I find exercise really helps me on a bad day.

With regards to family members not reaching out, I am also experiencing the same. Nobody checks in to see if I’m ok, it’s like Dad never existed. There was contact during the lead up to the funeral but nothing since? I don’t get comments on social media posts any more (which is how most of us communicated), absolutely nothing. It’s all very odd. All I can suggest is to surround yourself with people that you can talk to. I’d be in a much darker place if I didn’t have my sister and my friends to talk too. I also have grief counselling which really helps and I’ve also started journaling whereby I write about things that are upsetting/annoying me, I’m finding this really beneficial. Maybe give it a try, you can buy pre-populated grief journals on Amazon xxx

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Hey there. So sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine 2 weeks ago and the pain you feel is sickening. Stay strong xx

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So sorry for your loss :broken_heart:. I lost my Dad on the 18th September he died in his sleep at home of a heart attack and heart failure.

Sending you lots of strength to you and your family at this sad time x

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