Losing my husband I thought was the hardest experience I have ever been through….it wasn’t, it’s living without you that is…… Not only am I grieving him, I am grieving the loss of us, myself and a lost future together. Neither however is grief the “price you pay for love” because love doesn’t rip you to pieces, it doesn’t destroy everything you had, your mind, your body, your sleep and everything else it does to you. It is when this realisation hits after the tsunami that you begin to realise that love is enduring, love is the memories of their life, our life, love is kind, compassionate, comforting and most of all it’s a blessing. We focus on death when the very reason we are here, they were here, is ‘life’, so today is a celebration of their life, who they were, their love and our blessings. Today is a day of reflection, not of grief. It’s also a day of acknowledging the inner strength, courage and determination and effort it takes to get to yr 1, 2, 3 or however many years since they passed. It’s a journey of self discovery, showing ourselves the love, kindness and care they once showed us. There is a new version of us that arises from all this and we know that life will forever ever evolve, we grow, we learn, we make mistakes, we punish ourselves but we keep on going. The love and blessings carry us forward to pastures new, more memories, more happiness, more joy, life is like a never ending movie, a new story, new chapters, people we love come and go but we are still standing, albeit battle weary but we survive and eventually we begin to thrive once again. The foundations begin to build again, glimmers of hope appear and at year 3 for me, I can smile and be so very proud of me and how I personally coped with my own journey but today is to thank my Jim for his love, for all he did in helping me become the best version of myself because without him I wouldn’t be who I am today
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Such lovely words, and a lovely tribute to your dear Jim and your life together.
Take care x
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Your words are lovely, and such a wonderful tribute to your Jim .Look after yourself.
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Ditom64
Such lovely words.
I wish the very best for you, you have such determination.
Take care 
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Thank you all so much. Sharing our experiences is so helpful on this unwanted journey we are all on but together we build and become stronger 
Such a lovely post, very uplifting. My wife had cancer for two years before she died and even though we grieved together for we knew what the future held it was beautiful to be with her those final years. She wanted me to be happy and I will have to try because I love her.
I hope you have all the happiness you deserve.
Tom