It’s been almost 4 months since my hubby died and a while since I’ve posted on the group.
I have just experienced the most awful feeling that I’m going backwards at high speed. Tears and desperate moments of sheer loneliness and dread of the future . The spring is here and my garden is back to life but where is my husband to enjoy this with me !
My widowed friend tells me it’s the’grief tsunami’ and it just
comes with no warning !
Is anyone else experiencing this or has experienced this ? Thank you
Copenhagen, Yesterday I felt like I was drowning, I lost my wife of 52 years nearly a year ago, She had Parkinson’s and I cared for her, a very courageous lady, always positive, I really miss her. I was getting ready to visit my sister in her nursing home ( she has vascular dementia ) with her husband ( he has terminal cancer ) when I get a phone call to let me know that my wife’s sister has died, I was talking with her only the day before. I do not know how we are supposed to get through this, saying be strong does not cut it. Stop, look, the sun is shining the countryside is green, life goes on. Grief goes in waves. The grandchildren still laugh and run around ( 2 and 4 ). There is times even with the grief that you will see something that will make you smile.
I feel exactly like you. It has been 3 months since my husband suddenly and unexpectedly died in front of me with an embolism, no warning ,nothing. I thought I was doing ok now the initial shock has worn off but now I just picture him so clearly. He should be here with me, he was my best friend. I have found myself recently walking my dog with tears streaming . He has missed out on so much, all of our plans gone just like that. I try to see the good in things , have a good support network. IMy dad died 17 years ago and my mum has made a life for herself. They were inseparable. That sort of gives me a gliimer of hope. Hopefully we will get there xxx
Gosh we are having parallel lives !
It’s so hard to be left without the love of your life I walk the dog crying and talk to him all the time and am missing so much we wanted to do. It’s our 30th wedding anniversary next week. Ive bought a Pearl rose for 30 years. I miss him so much. Worse now than early on Apparently that’s normal. What the heck is normal ! Take care x
We are living parallell lives. It is my 33rd wedding anniversary this Friday. We were together 7 years before that. If I get upset, my labrador sits on his bottom and puts his front paws round my neck. I too do not know what is normal anymore. I guess me and you never in a million years thought we would be in this position. You take care too xxxx
This time last year we’d downsized and moved to a brand new home and were looking forward to our dotage !
Life was snatched away in minutes. Just before Christmas. Then there was New Year’s Eve and then my birthday. All in 2weeks.
Life sucks eh. But we carry on ! Take care x
We had both taken early retirement and were loving life. He had worked on oil rigs for many years so we had the last 15 months being together all the time and now it has all gone. Christmas Day was my birhday. I was 60, he bought me 60 presents. I am already dreading next Christmas. I just keep plodding on . Sending a hug xxxx