It’s really tough when you go back.
I went back too soon.
Make sure you take a good break before even considering returning. You have a lot to make sense of…
I cried non stop for the first few months. I would put my hand to my face and it was wet and I didn’t even know. I had to have eye drops in the end to help.
My boss told everyone before I went back but I did have the horrible experience of meeting someone in the loos who asked how my husband was. ( he was in hospital for 5 months before he died).
Nightwish1, i have only just found this thread.I so hope you have got through today the best you can.i will be thinking of you tomorrow.You are so right in everything you say.I am 64, my dear wife was 66.how many years do i have being alone within a sad empty lonely life?We have so many things going through our minds thats what i am finding.I am trying to go into a church cafe now when doing my shopping just to calm myself and try to find my pathway in this “new nornmal” but at the same time i think should i be at home?but then being at home too long gets my brain “thinking?worrying” its a sort of no win situation in a way.You are so right this path sure is crap with a capital C.Please look after yourself and thank you for your kindness and understanding on this site it means a lot to me.
Hi Zani, my husband was a car guy..watching car auctions, going to car shows, he belonged to this club for guys that owned a Toyota Tundra, they’d talk about what they’d done to their trucks…
Yes finding are way on this crap path is hard. Sometimes you have family and friends to help you. Sometimes you are lucky enough to find new friends, who understand. Sometimes you get the right advice on the forum. Just please make sure you are looking after yourself.
I do a lot of car chat, repairs, updates, styling, a lot of small chatter, it can be fun. Saves a lot of money too. I buy all of my cars at auction, i had 3 until recently, now 2, might buy a van.
I have thought about a campervan - it was something we had planned for our future so now its just me it would need to be a small one - a vw transit sized one so i can manage it
I mostly prefer to do regular mechanic repairs. Body work is a completely different skill set and so too conversions, so i’d not be any good at them, it would just take too long, but might be fun as a hobby.
Im pretty sure i dont have the skills but do have the tools - my husband was a qualified commercial mechanic so our garage is full of snap on tool boxes and tools. I have bo idea what to do with them
I know!
We get that pain. Unbearable. Never ending. So deep you can’t describe it effectively with words.
When you meet another widow you look into each other’s eyes and just know.
We wish time travel happens. We wish the world stops still. We wish magic was real.
Brain cannot comprehend reality anymore.
I can find that out for you in the next few days.
I have friends who sew a lot.
I only dabble a little in quilting and embroidery, but they know stuff.
Also our friend Nigel has dealt with his wife’s sewing items. I’ll ask him to post on here if he knows anything . @Nigel-Marnee
Hi I know it’s hard 12 weeks for me and my jon died very unexpectedly still not got Coroner’s report, take your time, I have good day’s and bad,I cry at anything ,just try to remember the good times and talk them, u can do this and just remember there’s no right or wrong way of grieving
