Sitting in the sunshine in my Sandie’s yarden…on my own…got to thinking…first introduction was in 1973…fell in love instantly. Wind on 2 years…after several encounters we married 1 August 1975. This should have been our 50th…we had plans…but 2 and a half years short. Loved ya from the first…held your hand as you went…life stopped for two…cept, I’m still here…struggling tbh …
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Hello UnityMan. I lost my Darling wife of 52 years in April 2024. I met my Elizabeth in 1971 we got married in April 1972. My Darling was diagnosed with Parkinson’s in 1994, I cared for her for the last 20 years. When she left me I just did not know why I was here, my reason for being had gone. With the help of our 2 adult children, the Bereavement Cafe in our village that meets once a month, and this site. I am starting to manage the grief. I will always love and miss Elizabeth, But with some social interaction like at my wife’s book club. life is starting to improve a little. I am still lonely but it is not as bad as it was. Grief comes in waves, I hope that you are due an upturn soon.
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Thank you Rob…I get it…tho my Sandie went in 2 months, not 20 years…and I think that’s mostly my difficult issue…she was totally fine until she wasn’t …instant love…and snatched away almost instantly. … but whatever the way it happens, until you get here…you can’t know…you have my utmost sympathy my friend.
This is horrific 
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Unity Man, Live is not that simple. I gave up my full time job in 1999 and went part time then self employed so that I had time to look after us both. We were still doing ok with Elizabeth needing a lot of support and care. Went to visit our daughter, Elizabeth was fine, about 11 she said I have a pain in my stomach I wont have lunch. We were going back home and she said this pain is bothering me, I said shall I take you to A&E. Elizabeth said I just want to lay on my bed. So I managed that and got her a hot water bottle. A little later we called 111 they sent an ambulance. Elizabeth was talking to the ambulance crew and they took her to the ambulance to do an ECG. They then said we will take Elizabeth to the Hospital. I said I will follow you in. As I got back to the door the Ambulance took off with the Blue lights on. I got in my car and followed. Got to A&E, said who I was, and was taken through immediately, straight through A&E to resuscitation. I was met by the A&E Consultant who said I am sorry your wife is dying and she was gone in less than 1/2 an hour. I held her hand but I don’t know if she knew I was there. 
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…unless you know…no words…
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Rob05
I am so sorry what you have been through.My brother-in law had parkinsons.He passed about 3 years ago.It is a horrible disease.His wife my wifes sister had a brain hemmorage in 2014.My brother in law started to look after his wife then his parkinsons got worse.So he ended up trying to look after his wife and himself.He ended up in a care home as his parkinsons got worse and he could no longer look after himself and his wife.He passed in the care home now my wifes sister is at home with carers support.My dear wife sadly passed 4 months ago of a rare blood condition.I miss her so much, my heart is broken.On the day she passed like your wife she asked me to get her a hot water bottle,she had pains in her tummy caused by the side effects of the tablets her consultant put her on.She passed that afternoon.I still feel so guilty i should have done more for her,called the ambulance earlier.She passed here in the living room on the sofa.My world has ended ,she was everything to me.I loved her with all my heart and will always love her until the day i leave this earth.take care Rob
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Thank you Brummy, I wish I was still caring for My Elizabeth.
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Thats ok rob.I wish i was still looking after my dear wife too.I would give anything to have her back but i know its not going to happen.Take care
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