I lost my wife and best friend a little over 6 months ago and whilst i still hurt a lot and cry a lot There have been some things which are becoming clear to me as time goes by and I take the most painful journey of my life
Its not weak to cry (it’s a man thing) it’s a expression of the love you have for your partner
Any decisions you made in the early days of grief were the right ones for you at that particular time in your journey so don’t look back with regret.
Until you have lost the love of your life you never really understand the pain and how it really feels to grieve for a partner. So forgive friends and family for what you perceive as thoughtless or unsympathetic comments they make even with the best intentions
There will be days when you can see light at the end of the tunnel only for it to go dark again.
There will be trigger points which catch you off guard and send you back to square one. It’s still early days for me and I think I’m slowly excepting that this will always be true but hopefully as time heals it will become less painful.
It’s the little things in life that can also be painful like signing birthday cards with only your name, it’s hurts
We all grieve differently I feel that my life will never be the same and as good as the life I had with my wife. But I still have a life to live and will do my best to enjoy what years I have left knowing it will be different from the day she left this world. Knowing that the love we had will always be a part of who I am.
Grieving takes time its own time we are all different, I’m still shedding lots of tears usually when I’m alone at home and even out doors. Life is still hard and I struggle to hold it together whenever my wife’s name is mentioned but now I accept this is how I am and it’s normal for me and that’s all that matters to me
So to anyone starting this painful journey take one day at a time and live the best life you can along this road we sadly find ourselves traveling along
