I lost my mum very suddenly in May 2023, she was diagnosed with bile duct cancer on 14th April and died a few weeks later on 2nd May. I hadn’t really processed that she had cancer when she died, it all moved so quickly. Almost immediately I seemed to have taken the role of getting everything sorted, mainly so my dad didn’t have to worry about it, I organised the funeral, sorted the solicitors for wills and all the other stuff you have to do when someone dies. Through doing this I think I have delayed my grief journey, still to this day I still feel like I’m in shock, like it’s not really real, like at some point I’m going to walk in and my mum will be there. Sometime feel like I can’t show my emotion, I’m 36 and have young children so feel sometimes that I need to hide it, I’ve become so busy with life that I can’t even let it out. I dunno, I feel like there is something wrong with me, like I’m grieving wrong. People don’t understand, I’m the first one in my group of friends that has lost a parent, feel like I can’t always talk about it, people get uncomfortable with it. Don’t know what I feel, it’s so hard to explain it all. Just need to type it out and get it out sometimes. Anyone else feel like they are not grieving probably?
I am so sorry you have lost your dear mum. I lost my son but feel the same about still being in shock and friends are kind but don’t want to talk about him any more. I also put on a brave face with others but the tears come down my cheeks when I am alone, even shopping etc. You are being brave for your children, I admire you. It is so hard. I think of you.
So sorry you have lost your mum, I feel exactly like you are feeling, I lost my mum in April last year, and still doesn’t feel real, mum lived with me, I cared for her until the very end, and I’m heartbroken, , xx
I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my wonderful husband 8 months ago too, I feel so lost without him and find it hard to see a future without him, I did lose my dad many years ago when I was only 30, I did heal over time but also had a lot of distractions with 3 young children and a husband to look after, now I just feel so alone, I hope you have a loving family and friends to help you through.
I’m so sorry you lost your son. That must be so hard for you. I’m sorry you don’t have more support around you, sending love. Take care
Sorry you’re going through the same, it’s so difficult isn’t it. People keep saying it gets easier, I just hope it does at some point for us all x
I’m so sorry you lost your husband and that your feeling alone, I hope you can find support to help you through. Do you have any close friends or family you can talk to?
Hello
So sorry to hear of your loss
I went through hell my mum was ill in hospital she was in a coma In intensive care and it still angers me to this day they took my mum out of intensive care after she came out of the coma. She was so ill she never got the care she deserved. They left her naked in a side room no heating on and on oxygen my dad questioned the staff why she was in that state they immediately dressed her. What a way to treat a patient so much for so called health service. To say I hate the nhs is an understatement they played a part in killing my mum. Whatever you do don’t put your mum in the countess of Chester hospital and the royal Liverpool hospital my mum was in both. And I do not care if they wanted to sue me for accusing me of killing my mum. They make me sick I detest them with every ounce of my body.
We can’t trust the nhs
I wish you well
I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. I just wanted to say that I don’t think there is any wrong way of grieving. Everyone grieves in their own way. It might even be that you’ve not fully started grieving yet. Especially when you’ve got young children to look after, it’s hard enough finding time to do anything, let alone giving yourself time to process your loss. My mum passed suddenly from a heart attack last February, the same day I gave birth to my second child and I’ve definitely just been focusing on the children and not thinking about the reality of my mum not being here anymore. I don’t know about you, but I think the bulk of any grieving I have done, has been on behalf of my daughter and the relationship she has lost with her nanna. And being upset for my mum for missing out on time with her grandchildren. It’s horrible being a mum without having your own mum to support you, I’m so sorry you’re going through it.
I know how you feel, I lost my brother suddenly 6 months ago, I feel the rest of the family are getting over it, but I still can’t get there yet, I was close to him and feel guilty as well that I wasn’t able to help him , it breaks my heart I just can’t stop feeling like it but can’t say to much as I don’t think they understand
Jenny 8,so sorry you lost your brother 6 months ago, I feel very much the same as you, I lost my mum, more than 6 months ago also, and have 1 family member who has just got over it, doesn’t even mention mum’s name, they seem to think I’m dwelling too long with grief, my mum was my world, no one understands or cares how you feel, so I just keep my feelings and emotions to myself, I’m just totally heartbroken and lost without her, 
I know i think they think i should be over it by now, they dont know i have joined this group not even my husband, i lost my sister 9 years ago she had COPD and was poorly for many years and we was all with her when she passed, iam just finding it harder as i keep thinking there is something i vould have done and dud he suffer at all, just so many unanswered questions, thinking of you and understanding how you feel