How does anyone carry on after the loss of a child. I need to keep going for my other son but I don’t know how.
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Sorry to hear of ur loss
I lost my daughter just over a year ago after a long battle with cancer
I guess we have no real choice but to carry on. The first few weeks and months were really hard and I was literally taking it hour by hour never mind day to day.
I never thought I would get to where I am today surviving
If ur struggling plz reach out or even its just to vent or share anytime
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Don’t think ahead, go one day at a time.
Don’t push yourself, be selfish and gradually the days go by.
I lost my eldest son 24 weeks ago. Soon it will be 6 months, I can’t believe it, I still have times where I don’t believe he’s gone.
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I have no idea. We are all struggling terribly 
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Hi Sue, sorry for your loss. It takes time.
I lost my 27 year old son 2 years in august.
Still on my journey. Counsellor helped for almost a year.
I have an older son of 32, we are close now but it took time.
Give yourself time to grieve.
Me and my son started going out for lunches but I found it too hard jist the two of us.
We can do it now but I still struggle a bjt.
Do it to make my son proud that we are carrying on for him as he wouldn’t want us to waste our lives being sad. We are sad but it becomes part of your grief timeline and you carry it with you. Sending love.
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I’m soo sorry for all of u with such losses
This will probably be the hardest thing u ever have to go through. The beginning days and weeks were the hardest. Some days I just spent the whole day crying others I forced myself to have a shower and do housework etc. I would be fine for a bit then the tears would come again and I’d be unable to continue. I got to the stage where I couldn’t go out or look at her pictures hear her voice etc. I still can’t hear her voice and pictures are a no no too. She seemed so alive when they came up on my phone that it confuses me. It’s like she’s gone away somewhere but I can’t think of where. I go visit her grave and though I cry and am a mess I just sit and talk to her about what’s been going on as I don’t want her to miss out. Is that weird. I don’t know. It’s all an adjustment. Everyone has their own grief and how they deal with things. It’s a rollercoaster. I had counselling as I was just tired and of being sad. It was affecting me in such a bad way. Now I guess I have some sort of way of handling it by thinking she hasn’t left me she’s with me like a little bird perched on my shoulder. I wasn’t taking care of myself or taking my blood pressure medication etc and it was getting dangerous. Counselling made me think of how angry and sad she would be that I wasn’t taking it and I wouldn’t want her to feel that so now I do take it.
Be kind to urself and selfish. Go with whatever u need not what others expect. Too many people have too much to say when all they do is judge or criticise how u r feeling. U have just lost a major part of u. Some struggle with different things so don’t put extra pressure upon urself. It’s whatever gets u through and nothing about u feel is wrong.
I’m here whenever any of u need
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