Being on your own with your thoughts for company isn’t good. I don’t want to forget my mum because she made me for who I am and I want to keep to my roots in today’s cruel world. But like so many on these forums it’s hard with a lifetime of memories to remember her by. Being emotionally charged every day. How is everyone coping with the memories ? the loss of the person you always went to, confided in ?
Hello @Keith68 ,
Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
How am I coping? Well it varies. I look at others and think not very well in comparison.
But depends how you measure it. Today it is raining and my cat pood where she shouldn’t in the house. So clear it up. I seem to have this round of tedious tasks so am trying to decide what to do today to cheer up. When my husband was alive now nearly two years ago in November, on rainy days we used to go to places like the museum or go inside National Trust properties.
We used to hunt for things to do.
Take a picnic and walk round a lake between showers, feed ducks, sit on plastic bags on a seat, maybe find an economical meal out, look round a garden centre. But all those things I don’t do now
At the moment my goal is to try to find places to try out on my own.
But I find it very hard sorting practical things out and getting motivated.
Some days I do ok.
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Hi Keith. I don’t think I am coping. I do my best to not be actively aware of the memories, because when I am, the pain is unbearable. I find that I can only function when I “forget”. I never truly forget, I mean that my mind is occupied enough that the knowledge is in the background, not the foreground. It’s almost a year now and that hasn’t changed or got better, so I’m not sure when and if it will. Sending a hug. 
We never forget, it last us a lifetime. I think the feeling of being lost too. It’s like do we leave where we was born to be a part of something in order to be happy ? I mean it’s a big jump, but what do we do ?
Good and bad ? that those memories evoke emotions ? if that’s the case then most days must be bad days ? I think people make things worse too. Especially if money comes into it! you would like to think we have evolved a little over the last 100 years, don’t think we have to be honest. If anything we are regressing backwards. Where have the good people gone ?
Oh yes that is the rub. But life is a mixture realistically.
That’s the question. I still don’t know. 
@Enorac I feel your pain I am the same its been two years and its like one day I am ok and the next I am not. Its like one thing after another for me.
I think grief comes in waves and is enhanced by today’s world. Possible it opens up the child within us too as we feel vulnerable to everything around us ?
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