It’s a month now since my Karen passed away thanks to lung cancer, she was very matter of fact about her terminal diagnosis and said that it was her reward for a lifetime’s smoking. The funeral was on the 18th May and many of her friends attended. It’s going to take me a long time to get used to an empty house. We knew each other for 40 years and I have many happy memories which are at the moment being blotted out by the memories of the last two months of her life. St Francis Hospice and the nursing home were excellent and can’t be faulted. People says things will get better but I miss my Karen so much.
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Hello Pete, I sad that Karen had to go and lung cancer is horrible regardless of way she got it. You are right 40 years is a long time but not long enough. The empty house is a really difficult one and one that I found very difficult to deal with until I got a cat who always welcomes me home.
It’s still early days so please be kind to yourself. Look for memories of those happy times when you were together. Things will improve, never the same but bright then today. Sending blessings to you. S xxx
I’m thinking of you tonight Pete.
It’s such s shirt time since your wife died. It takes s long time going through the black tunnel before you get to the light. We are all here for you. Keep posting
Tricia
Dear Pete, I feel with you, it is so hard loosing that person you love most. I know what you mean about good memories being blotted out by what happened during final illness. I found I have been going over and over what happened during the final illness of my husband. It can be soul destroying butI find now about 5 months later that I feel more that he is at peace but I do feel he is with me despite not being here directly any more. I hope this doesn’t sound too strange. Karen will always be with you. Why she got ill and other people don’t you’ll never know but life is just unpredictable. The positive memories will get stronger. It helps me to try and line up nice things like getting outside, pottering in the garden, going for a drive, do whatever you feel helps you.
Sending you a big hug xx
Hi Pete
My partner of 44 years died 8 months ago we had no children so I feel I have nothing left of him he did have a son by a previous marriage and he seems to have coped with it ok and cannot understand why I am crying and not wanting to go on without him. Everyday to get out of bed is a struggle and I see no one all day and everyday is the same apart from one really good neighbour. But truthfully I do not want to communicate with anyone except for my partner who is not coming home. Please keep in touch as it helps me in some way.
Hi Jessica1231
Thanks for your reply, mornings and weekends, especially Sunday’s are not good, my Karen passed away on Sunday 1st May, in March she had been given a possible six months but the lung cancer she had was aggressive and affected her hip, spine and pelvis.
Christmas 2021 was ok, Karen did the dinner and we watched the local fireworks on New Year’s Eve.
During January Karen began to complain of mobility problems, using first one walking stick then two and then crutches, we still thought it was a hip replacement that was necessary as one of her friends had similar symptoms. After a couple of weeks in hospital the diagnosis was given but within six weeks Karen had passed away, but at least her suffering is over now. Neither of us had any families so it’s a bit difficult thinking of the times ahead, Xmas, Karen’s birthday etc.
Hi Pete. It is difficult with no family as the loneliness is a double whammy. My partner had a farm accident it nearly broke every bone in his body then went on life support he recovered and lived for 3 months after then finally dying at home with heart failure. I am so sad all the time crying uncontrollably I just hope it can get a little because if not what is the point feeling this way all the time. I worry now about all the jobs outside which are to much for me and that makes matters worse than ever. Hope to here from you. Jessica