Hi Jude53 do t think we can say much to help one another … it’s so hard a d so sad. But I think just to know others understand a d a kind word here and there is more than enough. We have al lost loved ones we are all hurting… writing in a journal helped me a lot earlier on … now I just do it on bad days. Just getting those awful feelings down on paper seems to help calm my mind a bit do us worth a try. Grief is the price we pay for live someone once told me … I think maybe that is right. I have had such a lot of love … I wouldn’t change a thing I did. For ever wouldn’t have been long enough I dont suppose. Love from me, Sue 
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It is hard isn’t it and i’m Conscious of trying not to cry when people are there, I don’t want people to start avoiding me. Think until you have lost a child you don’t appreciate the pain. It’s just not the order things are meant to happen, but you know what deep down inside we are all strong and there will be light at the end of the tunnel for us, it just may take a little longer for some x
Jude totally agree … it’s hard … so hard. I do g line to cause a fuss so tend to isolate a lot if I feel down… or am
Having a bad few days. People say you should say how you really feel but most people would run a mile if they could read my thoughts 
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I’m the same some days, it’s a struggle to get out of bed and can’t wait to get back in. But i’m Sure it will get better and I know my daughter would hate to see me like this, you have to remain strong and positive that’s what I tell myself xx
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@Purple, Thanks so much for caring about @twinkle66. Hopefully when she logs on again, she will see that you, @Jayne2, @Rach25, @Honeybee31, @Pedro521, @Robette and @Jude53 are all here for her whenever she needs someone. She isn’t alone and is much loved here, and you guys are legends.
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… and so are you Abdullah for posting on twinkle66’s behalf. I hope she will feel less alone and know that people really do care
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No need for anyone to be alone, sometimes offloading onto someone you don’t know but understands is all it needs. Keep safe everyone, let’s try start tomorrow off with a smile.
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Hope Twinkle66 is doing ok and I hope she feels supported here at the end of the day unfortunately it’s the one thing we all have in common
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You are such a kind person @Abdullah.
@twinkle66 I am so sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine what losing one child would be like let alone two. I hope you get the support you need from all the people who have replied and you start to feel a bit more supported. Sending massive hugs
Shona x
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Hi I am so sorry for your lose I know my self what you are going through mine is not the same has your two sons my daughter was killed by a car when she was 9 my son took his life in July I am past heart broken why why I have daughter and son but I’m on my own no help what so ever my daughter can’t deal with it I am at the end lossing your children I don’t know how to deal with it any more the pain you can’t tell any one I am 66 and my health has gone I can just about get out of bed I am here if you would like to talk xxx
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I’m so sorry you know this pain. I don’t know how we survive it really. My eldest son died eight years ago aged 33, then remaining son three years ago aged 36, followed by my husband eighteen months ago. So now only me left … it’s so hard to deal with. I hope you have friends/family around you to help. Take care of you. Live from me, Sue
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Hi I am so sorry for you my heart breaks for you I feel the pain for you I have my daughter and son but they are heart broken I have no one else it’s like everyone you love is taken away if had so many deaths my daughter husband brother sister friend now my son any time I’m here for you all my thoughts are with you xx
Hi and Thankyou for your kindness. It’s so hard isn’t it … I feel like everyone I love will die! I can’t believe my life has ended up like this. Sending you love and strength too, Sue
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Dear Sue,
I’ve been thinking of you and what you said about everyone we love dying. I understand that. I’ve just had yet another loss, my uncle who was like. Dad to me.( My own Dad is still with us) ironically he passed on 13th November which was s my Dad’s birthday.
For some reason I’ve accepted his death…he was frail and had vascular dementia but then contracted Covid19. Perhaps we get used to death? Or perhaps it’s because of the circumstances?
I’m so sorry for my Mum…it’s her brother 
she is so sad but is still getting up every day and keeping going.
It’s just a matter of time for all of us so I’m trying to enjoy each day. Love and hugs to you Sue.
Purple x
I feel the same if just been my daughter’s can’t stop crying I feel has if can’t go on the pain is to much you are not on your own I am here for you any time xx
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Hi and bless your heart. I’m so sorry… death is so final and shocking. I hope both you abd your mum are doing ok. Hugs from me, Sue 