I am nearly a year after losing my husband of 20 years to cancer. The grief is overwhelming - again. All the things Im doing alone with my children now, the fact that he is not coming back seems even more real. Im trying to keep it all together but I didnt expect the grief to be so overwhelming still a year later. No one asks about him anymore. Its like people are scared to say his name, he died quite young and Im just so mad, sad and angry. Was wondering how people are experiencing grief after one year?
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Hi Nikki. I am sorry you are feeling like this after a year. It’s horrid isn’t it. I was a widow at 55 - 7 years ago and even now things catch me out. The anticipation of anniversaries, birthday etc are harder than the actual day itself. On a day to day basis life is ok but it’s a different life to the one I thought it was going to be. You are not alone feeling like this. Take care.
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I’m much older than you and was married for 54 years and lost my husband 2 years ago . He had dementia. I’m no better now… just totally grieved and my two sons never mention his name and don’t like to hear me talk about him…so upsetting. I keep telling myself that my husband wouldn’t want me to be like I am but it doesn’t work. I just feel heartbroken however much I try. all I do is walk my dog. I have no friends near me at all. I just plod on but hate facing each day so no you are not alone at all in how you feel.
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Hi @nikki356 I understand how you are feeling. It may be nearly a year but you were with your husband for twenty and it takes time so I am told. You are not alone with the feelings you are having. It is two and a half years for me and I still miss my husband terribly. I yearn for his love and companionship on a daily basis. I am trying to move forward but finding it really hard. I was with my husband for fifty years and did not think this is how our life would turn out. It’s just not right.X
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