I lost my wife just over a year ago.
We first met at an art studio for people with Mental ill health. I was already married, and I left him and fell in love with her.
I am struggling to get through the day, every day. I don’t want to keep fighting every day without her.
I have tried everything to get some support, but just get added to yet another waiting list, but I feel like I need help now.
Because I have previous mental health problems I feel like I have grief plus all my other issues have come to the fore, as my wife was my emotional support and helped me with all my overwhelming emotions and maladaptive coping strategies.
This is my first post here, so I am not going to go into detail about how I keep going, but I am looking for healthier ways to cope, and people who understand what I’m going through.
Hi @Hepzibah.
I’m sorry you are here with us and hope you find some comfort and support from fellow grievers. I’m only 5 months in so can’t offer much advice really, except that I find it helps on my bad days to read that others are having similar experiences and I often rant or babble on as it helps me get my feelings out in a place where I know people really understand and I won’t make them upset with my sadness.
That might help you as well. It truly is a very hard life we all are living at the moment but there are also others who share their progress and give others some hope that things can get better for us.
Take care xx
Thanks, I’ve been looking for something all year, but not much has helped.
The main thing is you are still trying and haven’t given up. That says so much about you in such a positive way. I do hope you find some peace and comfort here. Xx
So sorry, @Hepzibah. No wise words, but we all know what you’re going through. The fact that you’ve got through a year of this hell and are still standing, and reaching out to people, shows that you’re brave, resilient, and haven’t given in. Take care of yourself.
Thanks. I feel like I am at the end of my resilience and that I want to give up and crawl into a hole and never come out. I don’t want to be praised for coping when inside I’m a screaming mess. I often want to end everything. I’m not sure that I want to die, but I’m damn sure that I don’t want to live like this any more.
Maybe talk to your GP? He might be able to refer you for counselling. This site has counsellors too. I hope you can find some peace of mind.