The only ‘good memories’ actually the ONLY photos of me and him together wher from his wedding day and his wife blocked me from his Facebook meaning I can’t access them
That’s the worst part for me.
I met loads of people that loved my dad, friends of his that didn’t know me and I didn’t know them, same with my brother and sister. We were the black sheep of our own dad. The only people who knew who we were were my dad’s family and of course his 3 best friends, the funeral was massive and they all knew his fiancé and her kids and grandkids.
They even read out that my dad’s fiancé was his wife loving wife but I didnt have it in me to argue after all he spent 22 years with her, telling her one thing and telling us another.
I didn’t see my dad a lot before of her, she and I had a huge fight many years ago when I was a drinker (I’m 9 years sober) I broke the family curse and that’s one thing my dad was proud of.
That’s not right at all, you’re entitled to those pics, that memory. Can anyone get onto his Facebook and scroll through his pics to get them for you? Or is it private probably private if his wife is in control of it! I really don’t like her and I don’t know her.
Seems your not only dealing with the loss of your dad, your dealing with the mess he left behind too. (Sorry just ranting on your behalf) I really do feel your pain
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My dads family have always been local to me, my grandad actually worked on the estate directly opposite my nans (mums mum) house, saw him most days but never communicated. Once I was then going to the pubs, my grandad would be there playing darts for the pub, majority of my friends that also played darts knew him but didn’t know he was my grandad. The school caretaker from my secondary school was actually family friends with them and because my nans house was smack opposite my secondary school, we still saw each other when I left and even he didn’t know. I remember I walked into a pub with the darts team to find out my dads uncle owned it, I had no idea how to handle it so I confronted my grandad in front of everyone, got drunk and laid a few how truths out. Not my finest moment but no regrets lol
My sister sent me the link directly to the photographers file of them. I don’t want to put them up but I have a child who deserves to know everything about where he comes from and that includes my biological dad. He knows grandad is my stepdad but I want to tell him everything when the time is right. There is pictures of him with my dad, Nan, grandad, my dads side of the family
I honestly don’t blame you. We’ve all had them moments and some are well deserved too.
I wish I was in a place where I could give you advice but unfortunately I can’t but I am here for you to lay it all out there and listen and I hope that helps.
She had this view that my dad was perfect, believed everything he told her with zero questions. When they married I asked her if she had a prenup. She was buying a house from money she had got from her divorce, 2 children from that marriage that do not speak to her and making sure she would be ok if things didn’t work. I know my dad, he’s only interested in himself and she was livid with me about it. When he died she then found out he was in £1000s worth of debt, all of which he had never told her anything about
Awwww how old is your child? I’m glad you have the link and that one day you will tell your child where he comes from etc it’s always good for them to know as my 2 girls have sperm donors (long story) I’ve always been completely honest with them too.
My dads cousin was ear wigging into a conversation I was having about that side of the family, none of which was bad, just that they hadn’t been part of my life and I was the black sheep. She decided to pipe up so I reminded her, infront of everyone that I have a video of her doing the Irish jig at my mum and dads wedding so she is also one of those that hasn’t ever acknowledged melol
Some people only see what they want to see no matter when the truth is staring right at them and those people learn the hard way and she certainly did. What I don’t get is how you get to be removed from his Facebook page or ignored when all you’ve ever done is state the truth!
Shocking! But haha to the video evidence lol
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My boys just turned 9. Something lighter on that note, I can’t even call his dad a sperm donor, was a 1 nightstand and has refused to be involved from day one. I use the story as an icebreaker at parties lol
She also told me to leave the pub but when I advised her to come from behind the bar and remove me, she quietly shuffled off lol
Some people don’t want to hear the truth and even when they do have the truth, it’s easier to remove it then front it
Well I call my girls sperm donors sperm donors but there are stories surrounding them.
My eldest is 18 her sperm donor was a guy I went on a date with once and slept with once And I met my Husband whilst I was pregnant on her and we got together after she was born. My other daughter is child number 4 and she is 8 (going on 30) lol her sperm donor was a bad time in my life when my husband and I split for 2 years I spiralled and hit rock bottom and she was made lol husband and I are back together happily and had another baby so 5 children 18, 16, 13, 8 and 5 and the other 3 are boys lol
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Indeed cowards!
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I always said I wouldn’t have kids until I was confident that we would be able to maintain a family even if we split. All my friends where having kids from 16 and I used to tell them I’d rather have a new handbag, car, red soles but when I found out I was pregnant, I just knew it was my time and he’s the best thing that ever happened to me
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My mum said she wishes I had become a mum sooner if she knew I would turn my life around as I did. All I wanted to do was party, fight, sniff, tell everyone to get F …. Lol
Well my kids all know I didn’t want any lol but every single time I fell pregnant they were the making of me in different ways, wouldn’t be without them although I dream of later mornings, longer baths and no temper tantrums lol
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Wow we sound so alike lol I am an ex drug addict an ex alcoholic been 19 years no sniff and 9 years sober and I gave up the fags 4 years in January I vape now got to have 1 addiction lol
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