My mother’s father passed away last night and I found out this morning. I don’t know what I am feeling—or rather,I don’t know why. I am sad, I am angry. I AM SO ANGRY. I had a limited relationship with him; we were basically estranged. The reason is that he sexually abused my mother and her sister (the sister does not remember it), and he made a sexual advance on me too. Why am I feeling this way? Is it because I am sad/angry about what might have been?
How can I be there for my mother and aunt when there are so many secrets and repressed issues?