Who else shares this life ? I’m dealing with so much at the moment, I always felt like a alien in a alien world and I knew I wouldn’t have mum forever. It wasn’t going to happen, when mum was alive I kind of liked the idea of being alone and now I am, I miss mum. I’m just left with memories which gets me emotional. It just doesn’t stop, not too mention being diagnosed with Myeloma Cancer and 7 fractures in my back. I don’t know what I’m supposed to do with this current life. A lost soul, no kids and dealing with a health problem.
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There are definitely other people out there, feeling like they are different, and longing to meet like-minded people. Reach out to social groups and you might just be surprised 
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Social groups ?
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There are all sorts out there. Check out local notice boards in shops and cafes. There’s also the ‘MeetUp’ app, though they mainly have city-based groups. Near me, there’s a guitar club, a ukelele club, lots of walking groups, cycling groups… your church notices might list some groups, too.
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The Ramblers offer wellbeing walks, too.
It is very difficult dealing with loss without family or close friends for support. I have also been ill with Shingles and the on-going pain from it, leaving me quite isolated. I am also at a loss without my partner with no kids and not well. I am starting councelling soon.
Cycling not a chance I been diagnosed with Myeloma recently. I also like to get to know people, I never liked the idea of a bunch of strangers on some random meetup.
Last year I did a 80s night advertised on social media. I should of enjoyed it being a 80s kid. The truth I hated it, DJ set up was crap, everyone was in their own little groups, which I absolutely hate. Drinks were expensive and card only, Went out for a vape and the people were talking about their mum’s. Which was the last thing I wanted to hear. I gave it a chance but running through my mind was how long I was going to stay before heading into town. I moved on after 2 drinks went to a bar got talking to some young lads. I’m very wary of putting myself in iffy positions now, I been online since 2000 and done a few meets ups from the Internet from chat room days. These days I don’t do anything like that and am very wary of the internet and people from it. But obviously here is very different, I rather be alone then in a uncomfortable situation. I feel I deserve better than that.
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You definitely do deserve better than being in an uncomfortable situation. There’s not a lot to gain from being uncomfortable. It sounds like you are good at striking up conversation in a more relaxed / less pressured situation, though (the lads at the bar).
They approached me whilst I was outside vaping. Like I said the 80s night I just didn’t feel comfortable at all. Sometimes you better off with random things.
@Keith68 What about something like walking football? There might be some gentle fitness/health related groups you could join where there’s a social aspect but with less social pressure. I’m not sure what you’re able to do atm physically. Maybe the local health centre or gp will have some info. Could be a nice easy way to meet folk and take your mind off things for an hour. I hope you dont mind me making some suggestions.
I know the feeling often wanted mum to go away, stop interfering. Now she’s gone would give anything to have her back but think this is all normal.
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