I’ve spent all day in tears. Funeral was Tuesday and the pain is beyond description.
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Hi the pain is unbearable most days I non stop cry I try to keep busy then pause and wham it hits you. 3 months on I thought maybe if I went back to work it would break the days up. Mick retired at 60 4 years ago I retired a year later after 36 years in nursing then after a year I went back because I was bored. We done everything together I only went back 2 days a week. This week I can’t face going back to work to emotional. Take care of yourself I didn’t when Mick died and lost 2 stone physically I was a mess as well as emotionally I was worrying my son and daughter I had to start eating and looking after myself I knew Mick would be going mad at me
My wife was a staff nurse. Difficult that she was let down by her GP. If they had done their job properly even with diagnosis I should have had about 15-20 years and she should not have gone aged 53
Know the feeling Mick was also let down by our hospital trust and I work for them I think that’s why I can’t face going back. I don’t think I am looking for blame more answers I know if Mick was diagnosed earlier he may have stood a chance with an operation and chemotherapy don’t know whether it is ifs and buts i know I want answers.
Same here. Go diagnosed menapause but it was cancer of womb, lungs, bone marrow and lymphatic system. I’m not after compensation but the same as you I want answers.
Omg that’s awful you definitely need answers. I got all my husbands health records last week and my sister and i are going through everything and theres still results missing from December when you feel a little better do what you have you it is heartbreaking doing it and some one said to me why put yourself through this it won’t bring Mick back but no it may stop it happening to someone esle .
That’s exactly what I said. Nothing they can say or do will bring my Allison back but it may stop others going through the same heartache. Never expected to be on my own like this at 49
I know I am 58 Mick 64 his dad lived till late 80’s I always thought that would be us. We have to keep thinking of all the good memories even though not yet we can’t see our future with out them. Hope you get some rest tonight Saturdays at 9pm are my worst
To be honest I don’t know. I’ve written a complaint to the hospital PALS team and a letter to the GP. I have also spoken to a no win no fee legal firm but waiting for their reply.
Hi Jane I done this you have to contact PALs team at your hospital and they send you a form to fill in for his health records they take about 10 days to get to you. My husband did not leave a will they asked me for letters of probate but I argued that I was his next of kin in the end I had to give them ID marriage certificate it’s a hard job looking at but if you need answers do that.
They also give you a complaints pack you have to put in writing all your concerns they will look into this. If not content with outcome the next step is NHS England I not that far ahead yet because I am going through everything with a fine tooth comb. Hope this helps x