Good morning everyone ,just to say thinking of everyone on this grey bank holiday (im in shropshire) .Bank holidays & weekends are particularly difficult arent they ? I lost my wondetful husband 9 weeks ago I do read and can identify with everyone here ,the feelings of lonliness ,utter shock and hopelessness, lets get through today knowing we are not alone and we care .
Hope wherever you are whatever your doing and however your feeling ,today will pass ,sending you all some hugs.
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@Raffy. Thank you for your kind email to us. It’s going to be a long and lonely day for a lot of us, I guess. I am going to throw myself into housework, deliberately left some of it for today, knowing it would be a challenge. If the weather is ok later, I may go out for a walk.
I hope your day isn’t too bad. Sending hugs. x
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Good morning. Weather in Somerset is dry with intermittent sunny periods. Doing washing today. Really missing my darling Norman who died 12 weeks tomorrow. Hate bank holidays almost as much as Sundays. Hoping my neighbour pops in when she comes to move my recycling to the kerb otherwise I will speak to no one else today after my carers came this morning. It is so lonely. Hope you survive today. Xx. Sandra.
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I too have washed. Good drying day up in the North East. Trying to keep busy but I know that most of the day I’ll be talking to myself. After thinking that things were getting slightly better I had a real meltdown on Sunday for no reason at all. Still hits you with a big wallop at times. Grief is terrible.
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Hello all,
Im exactly the same I save things up thinking I’ll do that tomorrow or do whenever so it gives me a goal, ive changed the bed ,thought about sorting some more items of my ,lovely husbands things but cant do that today,I have a 15 yr old Dachshund that is deaf now and has cataracts but still enjoys a walk and a sniff around so i think i will take him for a walk if only to see another human! Evenings seem so much longer to me also , dreading winter ,o well one day at a time ,thanks for replying every one akways here for a chat or kind word which is always heartfelt and meant x
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Trying to improve my diet. Just swapped the pizza I ordered for my delivery Thursday for a Caesar salad and chosen the low calorie ready meals. I have until wednesday evening to change the order. Hopefully I won’t put the pizza back on.
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Do you know pudding i like your conversations there like mini stories I have been reading them ,if you do one thing thiscweek dont put the pizza back, then you,can say I did it ,I kept the salad, I had a stroke last year only a TIA ,but it was frightening and the doc put me on blood thinners and statins and ive tried to eat sensibly but since husband passed away i find the motivation to cook has completely gone its more microwave meals or picking all day ,everytime i have a banana or apple i feel like clapping to myself , im hoping i can get into a routine with meals agin but at the moment routine doesn’t exist ,hope your day ok x
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It helps me to feel like I am having a conversation in person. I do make sure I have fruit in every online order and try to make sure I have 1 piece every day. (Except I have run out). I wasn’t the cook. My husband cooked for the last 50 years. I have also ordered lamb steaks, pork loin and chicken breasts to split into ones for use in my new air fryer. I am trying to wean myself off ready meals. I have chosen the low calorie ones mostly for my Thursday delivery. I promise not to re add the pizza.
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Pudding, weather here in Essex is chilly but sunny. My darling Ron passed away 11 weeks tomorrow. Weekends are bad but so are Tuesdays, the day he passed. My Daughter in law has just rung to say will I go out with her and the grandaughters for a walk in a local country park so that will be lovely. I know the girlies will cheer me up. Have a good day everyone if you can. xx
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My husband liked cooking and did some good meals, hed like to experiment and could do a ,lovely beef stroganoff or a fab mousakka , i was always the meat abd 2 veg or curry in the oven, we used to.plan whoever got in from work first would start dinner ,id always hope it was him!! Yes ive been buying the “green” square healthier options meals ,followed by a cream cake and nibbling on jelly beans when having a crying sad evening !x
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Thank you for starting this conversation. It is quite comforting to know that it’s not just me struggling on weekends and bank holidays.
John and I were meant to go away this weekend though we hadn’t booked anything as we had very different ideas of what we wanted to do 
A friend is meeting me to go for a walk later so I do have something to look forward to and there is no end to the housework that needs doing but which I can’t bring myself to do!
Try and get some fresh air and see people, that does help me, briefly 
Enjoy your day hiw lovely x
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Have a lovely walk, yes fresh air always helps ,even if for a while, it certainly is comforting to know were not alone in our grief and others totally feel what were all going through ,take care x
I have an online order about every 2 weeks. I have a cake that day otherwise not. I do have some ice lollies and small choc iced in the freezer and have 1 of those occasionally. Having come off the diuretics and eating rubbish I have put on over 1 stone since he died. I have stopped the rot but now really need to lose for the sake of my poor knees. It is hard not to resort to comfort eating when trapped indoors and feeling so miserable. Xx
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I have kept myself very busy this morning, it’s a dreaded bank holiday and on Mondays my mind always goes back to that awful Monday 33 weeks ago when my darling husband was so very poorly and I knew I was going to lose him. He passed away at 5.25am the next day in my arms. I always wake up very early on Tuesdays now. However much I try, I always go back to then and wonder how I got through it, but we all do, don’t we?
I’m having a coffee break before dusting and vacuuming the bedroom now I have stripped the bed and washed.
I was hoping to go a walk later but it now looks like rain. Still have some shredding to do, so will finish that instead.
Hugs to everyone.
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Well I have found another problem that has made me miss Norman again. I decided on a nice bit of Cheshire cheese and crackers for my lunch. I fancied some picalilli but can’t as it’s a new jar and I can’t open it even with one of those assistance thingys. I’ll have to ask my carers tomorrow. It’s these silly things that make you cry all over again.
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@Pudding
I do sympathise, because I find some jars so difficult to open. A couple of weeks ago, I was having a real struggle with a jar of coffee, it suddenly opened and I had coffee grains everywhere. I have ordered an electric jar opener. xx
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Hello everyone! I was also dreading this weekend and that extra day, particularly as I’d had company all week which made the isolation feel worse! However, today I’ve been on a lovely walk with the dog and some other dog walkers in my area. This afternoon I am going to do some cooking for the freezer as I’ve put so much weight on since my husband died mainly by eating absolute rubbish and far too much chocolate!
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Now i found a jar opener its either made from silicon or rubber its flexible has 3 different size grips that actually expand i got it from tesco for my sister as she struggles its realky helpful it was only a couple of pounds ,
But i agree its the little things ,and the coming across situations that set us off x
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I think I have one but still couldn’t get jar open.