My husband suffered a fatal cardiac arrest 6 weeks ago he was only 61. We had so many hopes and dreams.
I’m devastated and finding it hard to cope, any help would be appreciated.
Jane
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Day at a time , or even an hour at a time . Just keep being kind to yourself too. My husband was only 60 … its too young isnt it 
its not fair x
Thank you, I’m so sorry to hear you are going through the same. Its good to talk, I just wish there was more groups available that you could actually meet people in the same situation.
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Yeh so do i … there should be … ! They set up one near me but it just made me cry … you are in early days and i remember those days … so raw i know … keep talking on this site. Helps to talk xxx
@Jane40 I have just joined Way Up! Only had my application approved tonight so I’ve not had chance to look at the website but as I understand it they do have meet ups! I think I would benefit from actually talking to people that know how I feel. J x
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Jax2 - I live in Norwich and there is zero groups to meet up chat and hopefully meet like minded friends. I think this is crucial to be able to see and talk face to face
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@Jax2 please let me know how the way up site is please
@Jol Will do! J x
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I have applied to way up I have to wait up to 7 days to be contacted to find out if im going to be accepted so will just have to wait and see.
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For those who mentioned it WayUp is a very good site,I am a member and there are lots of features that you can use if and when you like.
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@Jol Just had a quick look at the Way Up site. It doesn’t seem to be as easy to navigate as this site is but they do have some meet up sessions and on line zoom chats. I’ll just see how it goes. J x
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Thanks @miker! Someone else having trouble sleeping then! J x
Jane thats going to be tough, so sorry for your lost, I too lost some one very close about 6 weeks ago too she died on the 13th Aug, in the states, at only 52-3 years old, I’m broken in 2 from her loss, to loss some so suddenly, I’m in tears most of the time, and I’d say you are too, its very hard to cope as you know, you’ve got to take it one day at a time Jane, thats the only way your going to cope, with your loss, don’t stop crying too, it dose help to let it all out I hope that this is of some help to you at a sad time for us both
2nd night back to work and I broke down twice everyone is telling me to take more time off but I cant afford financially to do that also having to move out of my home at the end of the month as can no longer afford to stay there with losing my sweetheart its like hell on earth for all of us in this situation life is so cruel.
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So sorry your got to move the same happened to me i couldn’t stay in our home we made together i had to sell everything all of jims stuff that i wanted to keep had to go it was the hardest thing I’m ever had to do. I felt i had let him down leaving all our memories we made in home behind. Not a day goes by where i dont feel guilt and its devastating. The guilt eats me up. Sorry you are suffering so much but its the price we pay for loving someone so much. Xx
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I totally understand its horrendous and totally heartbreaking a few days ago ive had to go through and bag my jo’s clothes etc to go to charity it was heartbreaking I would not wish that on my worst enemy as you know and all the people on here. X
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You dont have to do the clothes thing yet you know ? Just do what you have to do at the moment. Be kind to yourself 
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Most of my jo’s personal things ive done not all but quite alot as time is not on my side as im working nights and most people I know can only help on saturdays so ive got a bit of pressure on me to get some stuff done on my own and as everyone on here well knows its extremely difficult to cope.
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Alot of my stuff is still in boxes i packed em up in stored in mums garage. my tetly tea collects and garden railway stuff . Some of jims model buses he collected but a lot went charity shop it’s awful to get rid of your lifes processions. Its all gone like a lot of the friends we had . All said they would be there never to hear from them again. Feel sad today thinking what’s the bloody point .
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Bless everyone on here its totally devastating what we are all going through x
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